Contrary to what you see every week on 'Sex and the City', women are the complete opposite of men in that, the more *anonymous* the sexual encounter, the LESS gratifying they find it to be. Unlike the fictional uber-slut Miranda, satisfying sex does not begin and end with the quest to find someone new to have an orgasm with. For the vast majority of women, the MORE connected they feel to their partner, the more overwhelming the total sexual experience is for them.
Just the reverse of typical male thinking, right? Men are intensely turned on by the thought of having sex with a woman for that very FIRST time, or by scoring a one-night stand with a perfect stranger, or perhaps fantasizing about being in a porno movie and having wanton sex with dozens of hot women he hardly knows. The common link between all these scenarios is that there is NO emotional bonding involved. Hell, there's hardly even an exchange of names! For the man, the more anonymous the sex the more *exciting* the idea of the conquest.
How the two genders make use of (and even exploit) this knowledge of each other's romantic weakness, however, is an entirely DIFFERENT story.
Women know exactly how to turn men on by manipulating this hardwired 'quirk' in their character that absolves them of the need to actually know anything about a woman who has triggered his desire to mate. How? Simply by pushing this uniquely male "anonymous sex" button long and often... by acting sexy AND remaining emotionally aloof at the same time. The stripper, the table dancer, the whore. The molten hot stranger. Any persona will do -- and all are quite useful when their design is seduction!
Men, on the other hand, seem mostly clueless about how to turn the tables and pull off the same trick. In fact, the prevailing feeling is that female lust is such a mysterious and unfathomable 'holy grail' so rarely encountered in real life that it's taken on a kind of mythical quality. I guess some women just have it for certain men... and not for others, and there's no understanding the reasons why.
But can female lust be triggered by the deliberate actions of a man? I say absolutely yes. Women get sexually turned on just as men do of course, but -- owing to differences in reproductive biology -- by a completely different set of mental processes. Men go for a VISUAL look that suggests youthfulness and thus fertility. But females aren't interested in a man's age so much because males remain virile well into the later part of their lifespan.
What they look for, instead, are signs of male POWER.
You see, women possess a deeply-rooted pre-intellectual *instinct* which compels them to submit themselves for copulation in the presence of what they sense to be a DOMINANT MALE. They cannot help feeling like this -- despite the fact that the modern woman manages to suppress the urge to act on these feelings most of the time (but, not always...). So when a man learns how to project the most subtlest of gestures, actions and attitudes that suggest he's a "dominant male", he can force a woman's subconscious mating desires to become aroused WHETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT.
And some of them won't like it a bit. She may get upset because you've forced her to experience a potent feeling which she may feel compelled to conceal with the workings of her more rational mind. And yet when a woman consents to have sex with a man who has set off these automatic desires in her, she stands to enter into the hottest, most fulfilling sensual experience that it is possible for her to have. And she knows it.
...AND she's also frightened of it -- because once unleashed in this way, it can be difficult to stem the cascade of all-consuming passion. She risks taking the kind of social and romantic chance that only happens a precious few times in her life. Can she allow herself to become addicted to a man who can make her see stars?
By learning to adopt the actions and attitudes of the dominant male, it is possible to create these sort of emotional disturbances in women at will. Almost any girl that you can manage to talk to in a SPECIFIC sort of way can have her "lust triggers" ignited like a blow torch. And when the ability to seduce becomes more a skill than mere luck, your chances of suffering the humiliation of being rejected vanish too. Now you have done more than learned to act the part of a dominant male, you have *become* one. And truthfully, there's no real difference.
Because in this game, acting is BEING.
Triggering Automatic Female Lust
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:08 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
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Tips for better love making - The top 5 erogenous
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:07 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
If you're floundering in the bedroom and your girlfriend is moaning for all the wrong reasons, these tips will point you in the right direction.
Gentlemen! If you want to get your girl moaning for real instead of faking it, you're going to have to put a bit of work in. Firstly, a male can achieve orgasm within 2 - 3 minutes when stimulated by another partner. Where as a female can take up to 15 minutes to climax.
If you know for a fact that you can't keep going for that long by pure intercourse alone (and lets face it, if you're doing that, you're having sex, not making love) then you are going to have to stimulate her body with foreplay instead.
Now before you panic and freak out, all of this can be done with your tongue and hands. I guarantee you will become a better lover in the bedroom AND you really will give her orgasm after orgasm.
The top 5 female erogenous zones
The neck
Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder to below her ear (while at the same time massaging it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be breathing heavily in a very short period of time.
The ear lobes
Sucking ear lobes isn't for everyone. Some girls get the tickles when you do it but others simply adore it. While you're there you can whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what she likes so this is a good way to do it if you're fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be very soothing.
The nipples
On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the female nipples become hard and sit up right when stimulated with your tongue. Don't forget to give both breasts even attention and also kiss down in between her breasts as you work your way between both of them. If she hasn't grabbed your head by this stage and held it into her bosom, something's badly wrong.
The belly button
Working your way down her body, the belly button is another area you should stimulate before full intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate her G spot.
The G Spot
Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the chance arises, ask her if she has already found her G spot and let her point you in the right direction.
As a general guide, most female G spots can be found on the roof of the vagina (that's the side closest to her stomach.). It's about the size and shape of a 2 pence coin and can be found about 4 inches in.
Extreme caution should be taken when stimulating this area with your tongue or fingers as a female can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don't be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get elbowed as she moans in ecstasy. It should also be noted that not all females have a G spot, so don't be alarmed if you both can't find it. As you have seen there are plenty of other areas of the female body that can be stimulated in the art of love making in order to help her climax.
Doing a combination of all these things will leave her begging for more and you will be a better lover for it. Experimentation is the key to find out what works and what doesn't as everyone is not the same.
As you can see, a true female orgasm involves the stimulation of her whole body and not just simple penetration. Taking the time to show care and attention to her needs will put you so far above any other lovers, she may have had that you may find it tricky escaping from the bed. I know I have ;-)
I hope this article helps your love life get back on track and that you become better and more confident at making love and not just having sex. Above all else, if you want to become a better lover, ask your partner what they like and what they want you to do to them. Not only will you help them get their rocks off quicker, you'll also show that you are thinking about their needs and they in turn will think about yours. This will create a much better experience than if both parties are concentrating on what each can get out of the experience in a very selfish way.
Until next time.
Gentlemen! If you want to get your girl moaning for real instead of faking it, you're going to have to put a bit of work in. Firstly, a male can achieve orgasm within 2 - 3 minutes when stimulated by another partner. Where as a female can take up to 15 minutes to climax.
If you know for a fact that you can't keep going for that long by pure intercourse alone (and lets face it, if you're doing that, you're having sex, not making love) then you are going to have to stimulate her body with foreplay instead.
Now before you panic and freak out, all of this can be done with your tongue and hands. I guarantee you will become a better lover in the bedroom AND you really will give her orgasm after orgasm.
The top 5 female erogenous zones
The neck
Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder to below her ear (while at the same time massaging it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be breathing heavily in a very short period of time.
The ear lobes
Sucking ear lobes isn't for everyone. Some girls get the tickles when you do it but others simply adore it. While you're there you can whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what she likes so this is a good way to do it if you're fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be very soothing.
The nipples
On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the female nipples become hard and sit up right when stimulated with your tongue. Don't forget to give both breasts even attention and also kiss down in between her breasts as you work your way between both of them. If she hasn't grabbed your head by this stage and held it into her bosom, something's badly wrong.
The belly button
Working your way down her body, the belly button is another area you should stimulate before full intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate her G spot.
The G Spot
Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the chance arises, ask her if she has already found her G spot and let her point you in the right direction.
As a general guide, most female G spots can be found on the roof of the vagina (that's the side closest to her stomach.). It's about the size and shape of a 2 pence coin and can be found about 4 inches in.
Extreme caution should be taken when stimulating this area with your tongue or fingers as a female can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don't be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get elbowed as she moans in ecstasy. It should also be noted that not all females have a G spot, so don't be alarmed if you both can't find it. As you have seen there are plenty of other areas of the female body that can be stimulated in the art of love making in order to help her climax.
Doing a combination of all these things will leave her begging for more and you will be a better lover for it. Experimentation is the key to find out what works and what doesn't as everyone is not the same.
As you can see, a true female orgasm involves the stimulation of her whole body and not just simple penetration. Taking the time to show care and attention to her needs will put you so far above any other lovers, she may have had that you may find it tricky escaping from the bed. I know I have ;-)
I hope this article helps your love life get back on track and that you become better and more confident at making love and not just having sex. Above all else, if you want to become a better lover, ask your partner what they like and what they want you to do to them. Not only will you help them get their rocks off quicker, you'll also show that you are thinking about their needs and they in turn will think about yours. This will create a much better experience than if both parties are concentrating on what each can get out of the experience in a very selfish way.
Until next time.
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The Kiss Of Death
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:06 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
You've met the most incredible girl. You don't really know her, but you're pretty sure she's a Goddess, sent straight from Heaven, in jeans. You exchanged glances in Chemistry, had a few brief conversations after class, and even bumped into her at the mall. (Talk about fate.)
You KNOW you want her. There's no doubt about it. The question now becomes, "Does she want you?" She smiles at you... but is it a friendly or a flirtatious smile? You saw her leave with another guy after class... was he her boyfriend? She flirted with you last week, even touched your shoulder... then completely ignored you the other day. Does she like you? How can you tell? You really need to know this before you begin the "pursuit" don't you?
Perhaps the most common question posed on the Don Juan Discussion Forum concerns "reading women" and trying to figure out whether they like you or not. The poster usually describes his situation, what he did, what she did, and then asks, "Does this mean she likes me?" Or, "Does this mean she doesn't like me?"
Definitely a popular question. Definitely a question in need of an answer.
THE ANSWER -- Obsessing about a particular girl, and whether or not she likes you, is the DON JUAN KISS OF DEATH!
If you're worrying about whether a girl likes you or not, chances are she doesn't - or rather, SHE WON'T. She won't because your "worry" and your obsession with what she thinks of you will actually push her away.
Let me clarify.
When you let yourself fall into the "obsession" trap, you begin to analyze everything your dream girl does, every word she says, every move she makes... and try to relate them all to you. She smiled at you - she didn't smile at you. She emailed you - she didn't email you. She returned your call - she didn't return your call. Confusion, frustration, and anxiety result.
This obsession with her behaviors and their meanings will paralyze you, confuse you, and suck every ounce of confidence you have from your body. You will become a Blithering Blob of Insecurity. And women, in general, are not attracted to Blithering Blobs of Insecurity.
So are you wrong to be confused by women? NO! Absolutely NO! Women ARE confusing. Always have been and always will be. That's just the way they are. Especially when it comes to romance, women seem totally inconsistent in their behaviors. One minute you're convinced you're the man of her dreams, and the next she seems to be unaware of your existence. One minute she's flirting, and smiling, and rubbing up against you, and the next minute she's gone, left without even saying "bye." You SHOULD be frustrated and confused!
Now, no one knows exactly why women give off such mixed signals and deliberately, it seems, attempt to confuse us. Some suspect it's those magazines they read. Others think it has to do with the secret bathroom conferences they hold. Still others propose that their illogical behaviors are due to the wacky hormones they have surging throughout their bodies. The cause is relatively unimportant. You just have to accept it, and plot your strategy to deal with it.
(I'm sure quite a few women are reading this and thinking that men are the same way - completely inconsistent and confusing. That may be true. But, hey, this isn't The Donna Juana Newsletter.)
So, given the inconsistencies of female romantic behavior, attempting to "read" women and figure out what they're thinking, is, at best, an incredibly frustrating experience. So don't do it. Don't even attempt it.
Just say NO to "reading" women!
Okay... well... if you don't really try to "read" women to determine whether they like you or not, then what do you do? What's your strategy? After all, they may be confusing, illogical, and somewhat annoying, but you still wanna get you one.
Simple: If you're attracted to a girl, then just ASSUME she's attracted to you too. And ACT ACCORDINGLY.
Assume that she likes you and would like to get to know you better. Assume that she's physically attracted to you. Assume that YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES to attract such a lady, no matter how incredible she seems. Assume the positive... always the positive. Assuming the negative will kill any chances you might have with her. (Pessimists, my friend, are not "chick magnets.")
Now there are many exciting benefits of adopting this attitude of assuming that women you like also like you... and treating them accordingly.
For one, if you refuse to obsess about all the little "signs" she's giving you, whether they be good signs or bad signs, you will feel more relaxed, calm, and confident. You won't be "up" one minute because she smiled at you, and "down" the next because she also smiled at some other guy. Attempting to "read" her will only lead to confusion, frustration, and anxiety. And this will make you more tense when she's around, and thus, less likely to be the charming, charismatic Don Juan that you'd like to be.
And you won't be wasting your time trying to figure out what she's thinking... trying to figure out what every little move means... and where you stand. You'll be able to devote your "mental time" to something more useful and productive.
Secondly, if you just assume that she likes you, then you will actually increase the probability that she eventually WILL like you. This is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy, and is a well-documented phenomenon in psychological research.
Basically what this means is that if you have a "she likes me" attitude, then you'll project positive, optimistic behaviors and thoughts. She'll pick up on these and, duh, like you. If, on the other hand, you have a "she doesn't like me" attitude, you'll project negative, pessimistic behaviors and thoughts. She'll, likewise, pick up on these and like you less. And if you have a "does she like me" attitude, then you'll project tense, anxiety-ridden behaviors and thoughts that will decrease the probability of her liking you... or she may even find being around you to be an "uncomfortable" experience. (Isn't it easier to relax around people who are relaxed themselves?)
And third, the attitude of just assuming that she likes you, rather than worrying about whether she does or not, allows you to maintain control of the situation... and yourself. If you are obsessing about the "signs" and allow the "signs" to control your behaviors, thoughts, and emotions, then you have basically given her complete control of the situation. And complete control over you. If she's "good" to you, you're happy. If she's "bad" to you, you're sad. If she wants to encourage you, she can throw out a few positive signals. If she wants to discourage you, she can throw out a few negative signals. You're happiness is basically under her control... whether she knows it or not. Not the position that a "Don Juan" likes to be in.
However, if you just assume that she likes you and treat her accordingly, and refuse to be controlled by all the little signs (especially the bad ones), you take charge of the situation. You have decided that you like her. And you have decided that she likes you... or will like you when she gets to know you better. And you act accordingly. You exude confidence. You're relaxed. And you project that "aura" that every budding Don Juan searches for. (The poor girl won't stand a chance up against that aura.)
Okay, so you agree that obsessing about a particular girl and whether or not she likes you is not in your best interest. It will turn you into a Blithering Blob of Insecurity, decrease the probability that she will like you, and give her complete control over your happiness. So what do you do when those thoughts start to take over your mind? I mean, after all, she is a Goddess, right?
Here's one simple little mental trick that might help you. Whenever the obsessive "does she like me" thoughts start to take over your mind, even if they're the "good" ones, mentally grab them with your hands, throw them down on the floor, and step on them. Then remind yourself that obsessing about her is not in your best interest, that it will suck away your confidence, and actually decrease the probability that you'll eventually get her. At this point you want to take a deep breath... smile... laugh... and think to yourself, "I should send that Allen guy a few bucks."
You KNOW you want her. There's no doubt about it. The question now becomes, "Does she want you?" She smiles at you... but is it a friendly or a flirtatious smile? You saw her leave with another guy after class... was he her boyfriend? She flirted with you last week, even touched your shoulder... then completely ignored you the other day. Does she like you? How can you tell? You really need to know this before you begin the "pursuit" don't you?
Perhaps the most common question posed on the Don Juan Discussion Forum concerns "reading women" and trying to figure out whether they like you or not. The poster usually describes his situation, what he did, what she did, and then asks, "Does this mean she likes me?" Or, "Does this mean she doesn't like me?"
Definitely a popular question. Definitely a question in need of an answer.
THE ANSWER -- Obsessing about a particular girl, and whether or not she likes you, is the DON JUAN KISS OF DEATH!
If you're worrying about whether a girl likes you or not, chances are she doesn't - or rather, SHE WON'T. She won't because your "worry" and your obsession with what she thinks of you will actually push her away.
Let me clarify.
When you let yourself fall into the "obsession" trap, you begin to analyze everything your dream girl does, every word she says, every move she makes... and try to relate them all to you. She smiled at you - she didn't smile at you. She emailed you - she didn't email you. She returned your call - she didn't return your call. Confusion, frustration, and anxiety result.
This obsession with her behaviors and their meanings will paralyze you, confuse you, and suck every ounce of confidence you have from your body. You will become a Blithering Blob of Insecurity. And women, in general, are not attracted to Blithering Blobs of Insecurity.
So are you wrong to be confused by women? NO! Absolutely NO! Women ARE confusing. Always have been and always will be. That's just the way they are. Especially when it comes to romance, women seem totally inconsistent in their behaviors. One minute you're convinced you're the man of her dreams, and the next she seems to be unaware of your existence. One minute she's flirting, and smiling, and rubbing up against you, and the next minute she's gone, left without even saying "bye." You SHOULD be frustrated and confused!
Now, no one knows exactly why women give off such mixed signals and deliberately, it seems, attempt to confuse us. Some suspect it's those magazines they read. Others think it has to do with the secret bathroom conferences they hold. Still others propose that their illogical behaviors are due to the wacky hormones they have surging throughout their bodies. The cause is relatively unimportant. You just have to accept it, and plot your strategy to deal with it.
(I'm sure quite a few women are reading this and thinking that men are the same way - completely inconsistent and confusing. That may be true. But, hey, this isn't The Donna Juana Newsletter.)
So, given the inconsistencies of female romantic behavior, attempting to "read" women and figure out what they're thinking, is, at best, an incredibly frustrating experience. So don't do it. Don't even attempt it.
Just say NO to "reading" women!
Okay... well... if you don't really try to "read" women to determine whether they like you or not, then what do you do? What's your strategy? After all, they may be confusing, illogical, and somewhat annoying, but you still wanna get you one.
Simple: If you're attracted to a girl, then just ASSUME she's attracted to you too. And ACT ACCORDINGLY.
Assume that she likes you and would like to get to know you better. Assume that she's physically attracted to you. Assume that YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES to attract such a lady, no matter how incredible she seems. Assume the positive... always the positive. Assuming the negative will kill any chances you might have with her. (Pessimists, my friend, are not "chick magnets.")
Now there are many exciting benefits of adopting this attitude of assuming that women you like also like you... and treating them accordingly.
For one, if you refuse to obsess about all the little "signs" she's giving you, whether they be good signs or bad signs, you will feel more relaxed, calm, and confident. You won't be "up" one minute because she smiled at you, and "down" the next because she also smiled at some other guy. Attempting to "read" her will only lead to confusion, frustration, and anxiety. And this will make you more tense when she's around, and thus, less likely to be the charming, charismatic Don Juan that you'd like to be.
And you won't be wasting your time trying to figure out what she's thinking... trying to figure out what every little move means... and where you stand. You'll be able to devote your "mental time" to something more useful and productive.
Secondly, if you just assume that she likes you, then you will actually increase the probability that she eventually WILL like you. This is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy, and is a well-documented phenomenon in psychological research.
Basically what this means is that if you have a "she likes me" attitude, then you'll project positive, optimistic behaviors and thoughts. She'll pick up on these and, duh, like you. If, on the other hand, you have a "she doesn't like me" attitude, you'll project negative, pessimistic behaviors and thoughts. She'll, likewise, pick up on these and like you less. And if you have a "does she like me" attitude, then you'll project tense, anxiety-ridden behaviors and thoughts that will decrease the probability of her liking you... or she may even find being around you to be an "uncomfortable" experience. (Isn't it easier to relax around people who are relaxed themselves?)
And third, the attitude of just assuming that she likes you, rather than worrying about whether she does or not, allows you to maintain control of the situation... and yourself. If you are obsessing about the "signs" and allow the "signs" to control your behaviors, thoughts, and emotions, then you have basically given her complete control of the situation. And complete control over you. If she's "good" to you, you're happy. If she's "bad" to you, you're sad. If she wants to encourage you, she can throw out a few positive signals. If she wants to discourage you, she can throw out a few negative signals. You're happiness is basically under her control... whether she knows it or not. Not the position that a "Don Juan" likes to be in.
However, if you just assume that she likes you and treat her accordingly, and refuse to be controlled by all the little signs (especially the bad ones), you take charge of the situation. You have decided that you like her. And you have decided that she likes you... or will like you when she gets to know you better. And you act accordingly. You exude confidence. You're relaxed. And you project that "aura" that every budding Don Juan searches for. (The poor girl won't stand a chance up against that aura.)
Okay, so you agree that obsessing about a particular girl and whether or not she likes you is not in your best interest. It will turn you into a Blithering Blob of Insecurity, decrease the probability that she will like you, and give her complete control over your happiness. So what do you do when those thoughts start to take over your mind? I mean, after all, she is a Goddess, right?
Here's one simple little mental trick that might help you. Whenever the obsessive "does she like me" thoughts start to take over your mind, even if they're the "good" ones, mentally grab them with your hands, throw them down on the floor, and step on them. Then remind yourself that obsessing about her is not in your best interest, that it will suck away your confidence, and actually decrease the probability that you'll eventually get her. At this point you want to take a deep breath... smile... laugh... and think to yourself, "I should send that Allen guy a few bucks."
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Sex Talk
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:05 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
Talking about sex: If there is one subject you should avoid its sex - don't ever start a conversation with a girl with sex, sexual innuendoes etc. Its just like with patterns - if you start a conversation with a pattern, you´ll just sound embarrassingly lame.
And if you start the conversation with sexual innoendos, you might never get a chance to continue the conversation.
Steamy topics of discussion are fine, once you've established rapport with a girl, the conversation has been going smooth, her body-language shows interest etc, she's past being comfortable with you, is already into intrigue and maybe even starting to feel a little horny:)
Once you have established rapport, introduce sex carefully using, not you, but a third party, watch her reactions, be sensitive yet bold. Use a third part like a friend or someone else... ("my friend monique once told me about a guy she'd done a one night stand with...bla bla yada yada yada..., you can safely get quite graphic using your third party and she can safely get horny because you're not talking about yourself or her:)
But once again, try not to start the conversation with sexual innuendoes, it definitely is a major turn-off for a girl.
Use personal experience or fantasy stories to get her horny. Ask her about what she has done or would like to do with other guys. You can use this even in every-day discussions by elaborating at the right time and in the right direction:)
A variation: Get her in a private place, and feed her with fantasies, increasingly sexual, in a hypnotic way, until she can't stand it anymore and will rape you:)" A journalist discussing SS, Playboy, July'98: "I had a friend in college whose success with women was mind-boggling, given his Napoleonic stature and receding hairline. I remember my college friend playfully turning every conversation with a girl, no matter where she would try to steer it, into something with sexual undertones.
He'd get her thinking about sex, and pretty soon she was thinking about having sex with him." Remember that steering the conversation into something with sexual undertones doesn't even necessarily have to mean talking explicitly about sex, see "The Discovery Channel pattern" for an example of this.
Talking about something innocent but inserting the words "penetrate", "come inside", "hard", "surrender" into the conversation might do the trick just as well. Whether you come out with it or you're more cautious, the best advice is just to experiment and develop an intuition with it.
An example of a combination of a cold approach, quoting, stacking realities and using fantasy stories. Example: "I know this guy named Vincent, he was telling me about a woman friend of his. She said that she was standing by herself in a bar one time when this guy walks up to her, looks her dead in the eyes and said, "I would like to fuck you. Would you like to fuck me?" and then just stands there.
She said she nearly dropped her drink, but then she started thinking about it and began feeling that heat building up in her body. You know how you feel when you start to get really aroused? All wet and excited? She didn't miss a beat and started playing right back at him. She said, "I'd want you to go down on me first...bla bla bla :)"
Anyway use your exquisite language skills to tell her exactly what you'd like to do to her & have Vincent's friend tell it to her.
An example of a line to use in a conversation. "When was the last time you had an orgasm? I really think you need to find a guy right now... and let him bend you over the bathroom sink and let him have his way with you."
Most women love the romantic and emotional stuff, while others are not necessarily interested in a relationship of any kind but would really enjoy a good session of hot and wild session of unforgettable sex, no strings attached.
So how do you begin to talk about that kind of low down and dirty sex? Well, if you see that she doesn't respond to relationship type conversation, move away from it. Offer a different perspective. You can either describe other couples that you know that are not communicating like they should and how much of a hassle it can be to be in a loveless relationship and so on.
So what's the alternative? It doesn't have to be your own opinion but you can mention how much of a hassle free a purely sexual experience can be between two horny people.
They can share all their fantasies without fear of being judged by a loved one and threatened with a break-up, they are free to experience many things that might be viewed as taboo by people in a serious relationship etc. You can talk about how easy it is to arrange something and see it through when it comes to nothing but physical pleasure.
You can say how both men and women can experiment with their sexual urges and curiousities without any relationship insecurities or jealousy. You can give examples of other couples that you know where the woman always fantasized about being with another woman but the husband was scared that she might leave him for a lesbian.
In a purely physical relationship, it's all about what makes us feel good, it's all about exploring fantasies and feeling comfortable with who we are as we are.
If you've hit the target, she will agree with you and feel a connection between the two of you because she will feel you are both the same.
At that point you can ask her about her favorite position or her favourite fantasies that she was never able to talk about or act on in a closed and conventional relationship. You can tell her about some mild fantasies of yours and direct the conversation to how wonderful it feels to be able to express yourselves in this way.
You can even mention how talking about this kind of stuff is making you hot right there and then probe to see if she feels the same way. You can joke about the two of you trying to seduce another person together for a possible threesome and more depending on the fantasies she already told you about. If everything clicks you will know because if you don't go for the close, she will :)
And if you start the conversation with sexual innoendos, you might never get a chance to continue the conversation.
Steamy topics of discussion are fine, once you've established rapport with a girl, the conversation has been going smooth, her body-language shows interest etc, she's past being comfortable with you, is already into intrigue and maybe even starting to feel a little horny:)
Once you have established rapport, introduce sex carefully using, not you, but a third party, watch her reactions, be sensitive yet bold. Use a third part like a friend or someone else... ("my friend monique once told me about a guy she'd done a one night stand with...bla bla yada yada yada..., you can safely get quite graphic using your third party and she can safely get horny because you're not talking about yourself or her:)
But once again, try not to start the conversation with sexual innuendoes, it definitely is a major turn-off for a girl.
Use personal experience or fantasy stories to get her horny. Ask her about what she has done or would like to do with other guys. You can use this even in every-day discussions by elaborating at the right time and in the right direction:)
A variation: Get her in a private place, and feed her with fantasies, increasingly sexual, in a hypnotic way, until she can't stand it anymore and will rape you:)" A journalist discussing SS, Playboy, July'98: "I had a friend in college whose success with women was mind-boggling, given his Napoleonic stature and receding hairline. I remember my college friend playfully turning every conversation with a girl, no matter where she would try to steer it, into something with sexual undertones.
He'd get her thinking about sex, and pretty soon she was thinking about having sex with him." Remember that steering the conversation into something with sexual undertones doesn't even necessarily have to mean talking explicitly about sex, see "The Discovery Channel pattern" for an example of this.
Talking about something innocent but inserting the words "penetrate", "come inside", "hard", "surrender" into the conversation might do the trick just as well. Whether you come out with it or you're more cautious, the best advice is just to experiment and develop an intuition with it.
An example of a combination of a cold approach, quoting, stacking realities and using fantasy stories. Example: "I know this guy named Vincent, he was telling me about a woman friend of his. She said that she was standing by herself in a bar one time when this guy walks up to her, looks her dead in the eyes and said, "I would like to fuck you. Would you like to fuck me?" and then just stands there.
She said she nearly dropped her drink, but then she started thinking about it and began feeling that heat building up in her body. You know how you feel when you start to get really aroused? All wet and excited? She didn't miss a beat and started playing right back at him. She said, "I'd want you to go down on me first...bla bla bla :)"
Anyway use your exquisite language skills to tell her exactly what you'd like to do to her & have Vincent's friend tell it to her.
An example of a line to use in a conversation. "When was the last time you had an orgasm? I really think you need to find a guy right now... and let him bend you over the bathroom sink and let him have his way with you."
Most women love the romantic and emotional stuff, while others are not necessarily interested in a relationship of any kind but would really enjoy a good session of hot and wild session of unforgettable sex, no strings attached.
So how do you begin to talk about that kind of low down and dirty sex? Well, if you see that she doesn't respond to relationship type conversation, move away from it. Offer a different perspective. You can either describe other couples that you know that are not communicating like they should and how much of a hassle it can be to be in a loveless relationship and so on.
So what's the alternative? It doesn't have to be your own opinion but you can mention how much of a hassle free a purely sexual experience can be between two horny people.
They can share all their fantasies without fear of being judged by a loved one and threatened with a break-up, they are free to experience many things that might be viewed as taboo by people in a serious relationship etc. You can talk about how easy it is to arrange something and see it through when it comes to nothing but physical pleasure.
You can say how both men and women can experiment with their sexual urges and curiousities without any relationship insecurities or jealousy. You can give examples of other couples that you know where the woman always fantasized about being with another woman but the husband was scared that she might leave him for a lesbian.
In a purely physical relationship, it's all about what makes us feel good, it's all about exploring fantasies and feeling comfortable with who we are as we are.
If you've hit the target, she will agree with you and feel a connection between the two of you because she will feel you are both the same.
At that point you can ask her about her favorite position or her favourite fantasies that she was never able to talk about or act on in a closed and conventional relationship. You can tell her about some mild fantasies of yours and direct the conversation to how wonderful it feels to be able to express yourselves in this way.
You can even mention how talking about this kind of stuff is making you hot right there and then probe to see if she feels the same way. You can joke about the two of you trying to seduce another person together for a possible threesome and more depending on the fantasies she already told you about. If everything clicks you will know because if you don't go for the close, she will :)
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Seducing For Threesomes
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:05 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
Threesomes: This is one of the most sought after fantasies that and have been the ultimate pleasure and fond memory for many. Both men and women daydream about how and what it would be like to be pleasured by at least two people at the same time. Yet few men knows the tricks of the techniques to use to snag their threesome and fulfill their secret fantasy. If you want to bang not one, but two girls in one night, at the same time, then I suggest you pay attention to this article. Before long you wont have to wish you could.
This is a Team Seduction Strategy. This means that you have already a sexual partner and have already agreed and discussed the possibilities of having a threesome.
Ok here is step by step what you need to do:
Tidy up your bedroom, and your whole house, before you leave just in case. Burn some incense to get rid of odors if necessary. If this is not possible (eg. you live with your mother) then depending on your budget get a nice hotel room.
Have ample supply of wine, liquor, champange, whatever.
Make sure you have at least 6-8 towels, just so you wont run out in the middle of the action.
Have handy at least one sex toy to enhance and increase your pleasure together.
Before you leave your house, put on some seductive romantic music to set the mood as soon as you return. And program your stereo to repeat the CD.
Wear nice and sexy seductive underwear and lingerie.
You must be nicely dressed, smell good and dont forget to smile.
So How Do You Plot Your Threesome? First thing you do when you leave the house, is pickup your female partner and decide on the venue. You want to chose somewhere nice and trendy, maybe a trendy bar or some place similar. Try to avoid a places where people know you well. Why be given that advice? More than likely, if this threesome happens with a friend or someone you know in the area, some jealousy and resentment will occur. You also want to get there early so as to get a nice table where you can overlook the whole bar. Remember your goal is to look for prospective girls, so if you sit at the bar itself you will be only facing the bar tender, and that will definitely decrease you chance of spotting the best chicks!
Your eyes must be those of eagles. What you're looking for is a couple of single girls sitting together. These girls should be, preferably, in their early or mid thirties. Women, when they start to reach that mature age are when they are at their horniest! Besides, its highly likely they are in the bar to flirt or even looking to be "picked up" or to "pick someone up." This will obviously increase your odds!
Usually you'll find these girls close to the bar, since that's where most guys go to purchase drinks. If you don't see any girls there just look around or wait for them to arrive. Unless ofcourse, you chose a bar where all the low life loser guys go that cant lay any women.
After you spot your threesome preys you must ofcourse approcah them. Dont bring your female partner with you. Shes just going to sit and watch as you stike up a conversation so you can at least develop some rapport with the girls.
The Approach: Some guys are good at this some are not, so let me give some tips.
1) You MUST smile.
2) Confidence is also a must.
3) You must make the girls feel comfortable to be around you.
This is important because if they feel uncomfortable they will just leave, which will ruin your chance of having your threesome.
Here is one way to make your approach:
You: What are you girls drinking (with a big smile)?
Girls: Wine, vodca, whatever (dosent matter, all you want to do is get the conversation going)
You: Should I order the same for my girl? (Then point at your female companion)
This will establish that you are obviously accompanied so they they wont have to feel you're hitting on them. This will substantially lower their defenses! At this point, your main aim is to develop rapport with the girls, crack silly jokes and get them more comfortable and attracted to your company. Then as soon as you realize they are enjoying your jokes, feeling really happy, laughing and having a good time you you want to "pull the carrot away". Just apruptly say "It was REALLY nice meeting you girls, have a great time tonight" and return to where your female companion is. Now they have to be thinking and talking to themselves..."Wow...that was a really nice guy...he's so funny!
You're not done yet. Keep reading, this is all part of the game guys. You want to wait about 3 to 5 minutes and then the two of you walk up and approach the two girls again. Introduce your partner to them and from there let her take over. It is the goal of both of you to establish a nice friendly rapport going full of laughs and fun and great conversations. Something women are good at anyway!
The first step: Once a good rapport is established it is now time to do what we call some "fishing". This sequence is very important, so follow it carefully. Turn to the girls with a most genuine voice and say: "Do you guys come here often?"
If they say yes, then you want to follow that up with; "...so you are familiar with how it works here right?"
If they answer no then say: "Do you know what night is tonight?"
Most likely they will say: "How do you mean?" Or "No What night is tonight?"
Now follow up with: "Well, every day there's a different thing happening here isn't it?"
Again most likely you will get a blank stare...
Then follow with: "Well, we do not come here often but we learned on the internet that Tuesdays (Or whatever the day may be) it is a night for couples....that's exactly why we came here today!"
At this point they will be still a bit confused, so you might need to elaborate.
"We heard that tonight this is the spot where swingers go for a drink to meet other couples?"
We usually get a grin or a hysterical laugh of disbelief...
So we ask: "Is this true?" or " Did you know that?"
Do you see how we transition the whole conversation to a new topic without abruptly changing topics? Take note.
"So, you didn’t know about this?" we insist...
They will still be surprised, however you have already established that you guys are a couple and are ready to play!
They might be unaware but you planting those threesome seeds deep inside their unconcious will most likely result in hot steamy sex tonight!
Your next step is to keep the "fishing" strategies going and ratchet up the "reeling in" process. You have already established that they're cool with the swingers subject and its most likely they are game. Now is the time to gradually switch from innocent questions to more intimate and sexually oriented questions. See my sex talk article. Everything geared to the topic of swingers, couple swapping and bisexuality should be the topic at hand, and ofcourse this is appropriate since this is swingers night right :). Whatever you have to do to keep the fire burning, make sure you do it.
Once both you and your partner get a sense that the time is right to be direct, either one of you would say something like:
"Have you girls ever done something with another woman?"
The most common response I get is...they will laugh and then they will either admit they have or they will say no we have not. Guys, I hope you're paying attention and realize that if you have managed to get them to this point you can now reel them in alot faster. What do I mean? Now you can move on to more specific questions: "How?", "When?", "What Happened?" Make it fun, laugh liberally and keep them talking about it, because the more they reflect on it and talk freely and openly about it, the more relaxed they will feel together with you and most important, the more they will begin to realize how much fun and excitement it was, or can be. In the event that they will respond negatively you want to reframe their thoughts to think about the experience in a good way. So you would come back with something like:
"Under the right circumstances, I'm sure you wouldnt mind considering it, (then continue talking) and if its done in a more comfortable setting, I'm sure you WILL feel alot more comfortable relaxed and open!" They might shake their heads giving you a maybe, sort of answer...That is enough. What that means is if you play your cards right, you're in.
(Please Pay attention because the next step is going to be a very important step…)
Before you proceed to this step, be certain that the four of you are still in rapport and that the atmosphere is already of mutual respect and trust.
You say: "It's Weird how we just started talking so openly and freely about this naughty subject...my partner (girl, wife whatever) here saw you and she told me that you girls were kind of cute and as we thought tonight was swingers night she send me to check you out...:)
Then follow with: "Do you girls find her cute?" At this point we normally get a "yes", since we have already plantedthe seeds of curiosity.
After this moment the conversation must be mostly on female bisexuality. Take note of how the conversation goes at this juncture so you can reel them in a bit more. As soon as you see that the ladies are on their toes with curiosity you lead them into the next phase.
The Third Milestone in this threesome seduction strategy is "THE KISS". Your goal here is to get either of the girls to kiss your partner. The ones I find work the best for me are the following: The truth or dare approach. In the same rapport, trusting, comfortable mode, dare the girls to kiss your parther. If you're successful, which wont be hard considering everyone is on the same page, there's going to be lot's of pussy to go around!
After this moment its all downhill! Before asking the girls to join you for a drink at home, ask the bar tender for a round of "sexy drinks" , below I have included a few examples.
Creamy Bush: 1 1/2 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1 1/2 oz Bush mills Irish Whiskey,
Sit On My Face: 1/3 oz Kahlua Coffee Liqueur, 1/3 oz Frangelico Hazelnut Liqueur, 1/3 oz Bailey's Irish Cream,
Buttery Nipple: 1 oz DeKuyper Butter shots, 1/2 oz Irish Cream,
Cunnilingus: 1/4 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1/4 oz Peach Schnapps, 1/2 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 1/2 oz Whipped Cream,
Tight Snatch: Ice, 1 shot Absolut Vodka, 1 shot Peach Schnapps, 6 oz Orange Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
Get Laid: 3/4 oz Raspberry Liqueur, 1 oz Vodka, 6 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
If you notice I only list drinks that are female related. This is obviously because it keeps the conversation going to the direction we want to take it!
After we finish our drinks, excuse youself to the bathroom and secretly pays for all drinks. In the mean while, your partner invites the girls to come home for a drink. When you get back your partner will simply suggest to you "why don't we continue our conversation together at home, I have already invited the girls over", and you simply say: "Good idea!"
When the girls ask for their bill the bar tender tells them that its already taken care of they will thank you very sweetly, bonding you together even more.
Taking The Girls Home is a very important step that should also be systematically planned. Your strategy is to have have all the girls, including your partner, follow you home together in one car, whilest you lead in another automobile. The most painful mistake I see some guys make is letting the girls drive back on their own without either them or their partner in the car with them.
The last thing you want is for them to get cold feet and a sudden mood change. That's why you need to be there with them keeping that "girlie" talk flowing. Once youre home, break out the wine glasses, get the music going, and you know the rest. Happy Seducing!
This is a Team Seduction Strategy. This means that you have already a sexual partner and have already agreed and discussed the possibilities of having a threesome.
Ok here is step by step what you need to do:
Tidy up your bedroom, and your whole house, before you leave just in case. Burn some incense to get rid of odors if necessary. If this is not possible (eg. you live with your mother) then depending on your budget get a nice hotel room.
Have ample supply of wine, liquor, champange, whatever.
Make sure you have at least 6-8 towels, just so you wont run out in the middle of the action.
Have handy at least one sex toy to enhance and increase your pleasure together.
Before you leave your house, put on some seductive romantic music to set the mood as soon as you return. And program your stereo to repeat the CD.
Wear nice and sexy seductive underwear and lingerie.
You must be nicely dressed, smell good and dont forget to smile.
So How Do You Plot Your Threesome? First thing you do when you leave the house, is pickup your female partner and decide on the venue. You want to chose somewhere nice and trendy, maybe a trendy bar or some place similar. Try to avoid a places where people know you well. Why be given that advice? More than likely, if this threesome happens with a friend or someone you know in the area, some jealousy and resentment will occur. You also want to get there early so as to get a nice table where you can overlook the whole bar. Remember your goal is to look for prospective girls, so if you sit at the bar itself you will be only facing the bar tender, and that will definitely decrease you chance of spotting the best chicks!
Your eyes must be those of eagles. What you're looking for is a couple of single girls sitting together. These girls should be, preferably, in their early or mid thirties. Women, when they start to reach that mature age are when they are at their horniest! Besides, its highly likely they are in the bar to flirt or even looking to be "picked up" or to "pick someone up." This will obviously increase your odds!
Usually you'll find these girls close to the bar, since that's where most guys go to purchase drinks. If you don't see any girls there just look around or wait for them to arrive. Unless ofcourse, you chose a bar where all the low life loser guys go that cant lay any women.
After you spot your threesome preys you must ofcourse approcah them. Dont bring your female partner with you. Shes just going to sit and watch as you stike up a conversation so you can at least develop some rapport with the girls.
The Approach: Some guys are good at this some are not, so let me give some tips.
1) You MUST smile.
2) Confidence is also a must.
3) You must make the girls feel comfortable to be around you.
This is important because if they feel uncomfortable they will just leave, which will ruin your chance of having your threesome.
Here is one way to make your approach:
You: What are you girls drinking (with a big smile)?
Girls: Wine, vodca, whatever (dosent matter, all you want to do is get the conversation going)
You: Should I order the same for my girl? (Then point at your female companion)
This will establish that you are obviously accompanied so they they wont have to feel you're hitting on them. This will substantially lower their defenses! At this point, your main aim is to develop rapport with the girls, crack silly jokes and get them more comfortable and attracted to your company. Then as soon as you realize they are enjoying your jokes, feeling really happy, laughing and having a good time you you want to "pull the carrot away". Just apruptly say "It was REALLY nice meeting you girls, have a great time tonight" and return to where your female companion is. Now they have to be thinking and talking to themselves..."Wow...that was a really nice guy...he's so funny!
You're not done yet. Keep reading, this is all part of the game guys. You want to wait about 3 to 5 minutes and then the two of you walk up and approach the two girls again. Introduce your partner to them and from there let her take over. It is the goal of both of you to establish a nice friendly rapport going full of laughs and fun and great conversations. Something women are good at anyway!
The first step: Once a good rapport is established it is now time to do what we call some "fishing". This sequence is very important, so follow it carefully. Turn to the girls with a most genuine voice and say: "Do you guys come here often?"
If they say yes, then you want to follow that up with; "...so you are familiar with how it works here right?"
If they answer no then say: "Do you know what night is tonight?"
Most likely they will say: "How do you mean?" Or "No What night is tonight?"
Now follow up with: "Well, every day there's a different thing happening here isn't it?"
Again most likely you will get a blank stare...
Then follow with: "Well, we do not come here often but we learned on the internet that Tuesdays (Or whatever the day may be) it is a night for couples....that's exactly why we came here today!"
At this point they will be still a bit confused, so you might need to elaborate.
"We heard that tonight this is the spot where swingers go for a drink to meet other couples?"
We usually get a grin or a hysterical laugh of disbelief...
So we ask: "Is this true?" or " Did you know that?"
Do you see how we transition the whole conversation to a new topic without abruptly changing topics? Take note.
"So, you didn’t know about this?" we insist...
They will still be surprised, however you have already established that you guys are a couple and are ready to play!
They might be unaware but you planting those threesome seeds deep inside their unconcious will most likely result in hot steamy sex tonight!
Your next step is to keep the "fishing" strategies going and ratchet up the "reeling in" process. You have already established that they're cool with the swingers subject and its most likely they are game. Now is the time to gradually switch from innocent questions to more intimate and sexually oriented questions. See my sex talk article. Everything geared to the topic of swingers, couple swapping and bisexuality should be the topic at hand, and ofcourse this is appropriate since this is swingers night right :). Whatever you have to do to keep the fire burning, make sure you do it.
Once both you and your partner get a sense that the time is right to be direct, either one of you would say something like:
"Have you girls ever done something with another woman?"
The most common response I get is...they will laugh and then they will either admit they have or they will say no we have not. Guys, I hope you're paying attention and realize that if you have managed to get them to this point you can now reel them in alot faster. What do I mean? Now you can move on to more specific questions: "How?", "When?", "What Happened?" Make it fun, laugh liberally and keep them talking about it, because the more they reflect on it and talk freely and openly about it, the more relaxed they will feel together with you and most important, the more they will begin to realize how much fun and excitement it was, or can be. In the event that they will respond negatively you want to reframe their thoughts to think about the experience in a good way. So you would come back with something like:
"Under the right circumstances, I'm sure you wouldnt mind considering it, (then continue talking) and if its done in a more comfortable setting, I'm sure you WILL feel alot more comfortable relaxed and open!" They might shake their heads giving you a maybe, sort of answer...That is enough. What that means is if you play your cards right, you're in.
(Please Pay attention because the next step is going to be a very important step…)
Before you proceed to this step, be certain that the four of you are still in rapport and that the atmosphere is already of mutual respect and trust.
You say: "It's Weird how we just started talking so openly and freely about this naughty subject...my partner (girl, wife whatever) here saw you and she told me that you girls were kind of cute and as we thought tonight was swingers night she send me to check you out...:)
Then follow with: "Do you girls find her cute?" At this point we normally get a "yes", since we have already plantedthe seeds of curiosity.
After this moment the conversation must be mostly on female bisexuality. Take note of how the conversation goes at this juncture so you can reel them in a bit more. As soon as you see that the ladies are on their toes with curiosity you lead them into the next phase.
The Third Milestone in this threesome seduction strategy is "THE KISS". Your goal here is to get either of the girls to kiss your partner. The ones I find work the best for me are the following: The truth or dare approach. In the same rapport, trusting, comfortable mode, dare the girls to kiss your parther. If you're successful, which wont be hard considering everyone is on the same page, there's going to be lot's of pussy to go around!
After this moment its all downhill! Before asking the girls to join you for a drink at home, ask the bar tender for a round of "sexy drinks" , below I have included a few examples.
Creamy Bush: 1 1/2 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1 1/2 oz Bush mills Irish Whiskey,
Sit On My Face: 1/3 oz Kahlua Coffee Liqueur, 1/3 oz Frangelico Hazelnut Liqueur, 1/3 oz Bailey's Irish Cream,
Buttery Nipple: 1 oz DeKuyper Butter shots, 1/2 oz Irish Cream,
Cunnilingus: 1/4 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1/4 oz Peach Schnapps, 1/2 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 1/2 oz Whipped Cream,
Tight Snatch: Ice, 1 shot Absolut Vodka, 1 shot Peach Schnapps, 6 oz Orange Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
Get Laid: 3/4 oz Raspberry Liqueur, 1 oz Vodka, 6 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
If you notice I only list drinks that are female related. This is obviously because it keeps the conversation going to the direction we want to take it!
After we finish our drinks, excuse youself to the bathroom and secretly pays for all drinks. In the mean while, your partner invites the girls to come home for a drink. When you get back your partner will simply suggest to you "why don't we continue our conversation together at home, I have already invited the girls over", and you simply say: "Good idea!"
When the girls ask for their bill the bar tender tells them that its already taken care of they will thank you very sweetly, bonding you together even more.
Taking The Girls Home is a very important step that should also be systematically planned. Your strategy is to have have all the girls, including your partner, follow you home together in one car, whilest you lead in another automobile. The most painful mistake I see some guys make is letting the girls drive back on their own without either them or their partner in the car with them.
The last thing you want is for them to get cold feet and a sudden mood change. That's why you need to be there with them keeping that "girlie" talk flowing. Once youre home, break out the wine glasses, get the music going, and you know the rest. Happy Seducing!
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