If you're a single guy still looking for your dream POA (piece of ass), I'm sure you've absorbed lots of advice on how best to meet and date women by now. A lot of it is "common sensical" as you well know. Therefore, assuming you know enough not to show up on a first date looking like you just combed your hair with an M-80 or wearing cowboy boots and shorts, maybe a few of the following ideas can give you just enough of an edge to make the difference between Date #2 with an exciting little fox -- and a date with ol' Rosie Palm instead. Check these out :
1 ) Don't Try To Act Like A Fake On The First Date
A woman often makes a far more profound emotional investment into a relationship than a man does. So for her, TRUST is an immensely important issue. Dating is not just a convenient way to get her rocks off, it's a case study in the male psyche. Can she trust you to ever be a good future father? Don't laugh, unless she's middle-aged and well beyond the kids & husband phase of her life, this "mating calculus" is ALWAYS running somewhere in the back of her mind.
Acting like a phoney with an obviously fake 'come-on' personality only demonstrates how easily you are willing to embrace deception in order to get something you want. To any woman other than the sad exception of the chick who's looking for another loser for her next AA reclamation project (maybe 10% to 15% of the female population), you are TOTAL POISON. A potential cheater and heartbreaker just waiting for his next victim to arrive. She may dump you right away, OR depending on the depth of her general bitterness towards men, keep you around to engage in a little recreational tease and torturing if she's got a vendetta to settle with a guy like you. Beware!
2 ) Create New Memories Instead Of Swapping Them
Here's the very best dating advice I can ever give anyone: in order to make any date memorable and fun, spend 90% of your activities in the present moment.
It's easy to get caught up in the "talking trap" on a date -- where the two of you sit around and get lost in deeper and deeper conversation. These 'chatting dates' can slip out of control and become subtle passion-killers though, especially if you're not careful to keep the big picture in focus. Before you know it, you're spilling your guts about Father Hamhands from your altar boy days or waxing poetic about your hemorrhoids and how they love to swell up in the springtime. Yeesh. As Joey from the TV show Friends once scolded his buddy Chandler, "... ok, that's TOO MUCH information!..."
For a seduction to go off like a thing of beauty, you must reveal yourself SLOWLY -- bit-by-bit -- as you gradually come to know her. Think of dating as an emotional veil dance... a striptease -- the point of which is to make her anticipate when the next Veil of Male Mystery will come off! This is the kind of thing she's been DREAMING about all her life. Why? Because it makes everything that's to follow (including the sex) all that much more delicious for her.
So put ACTION ahead of endless yakking. Stay active on a date (it doesn't have to be an extreme sport-fest or anything, just visiting a flea market will do...) so that you are BUILDING a memory with her instead of SHARING one. Focus on having experiences with her that the two of you can reminisce about some day in the future -- instead of spending time caught up in a lot of drawn-out amateur psychotherapy sessions in a bar somewhere. Conversation is very important in any new relationship, and is the pathway to her eventual sexual surrender, but you must provide her with a REASON to want to know so much about you *FIRST* before opening your soul. Never forget the importance of your veil dance.
3 ) Don't Be A Bore
A boring person is anti-charismatic -- which is to say that, instead of making people feel GOOD about themselves by acting interested in them, the boring person makes us want to run away screaming from the agony of having to listen to another second of his self-absorbed droning!
The point of conversation should always be focused on drawing HER interests out instead of dwelling on your own (but don't come across like a ruthless Nazi interrogator -- go easy on the unbroken string of questions). Share a little -- but keep YOUR interests lost in the background. Her response to a few casual queries about her life or current dreams holds clues to your *LifeLine*. Cling to it tightly and work on expanding its scope. Submerge your own ego for the first few dates. Don't worry, when you finally hook her she'll begin questioning you intently... maybe TOO intently! But that probably won't happen until after you've had sex. (Then get ready for the onslaught!)
4 ) Forget About Trying To Act "Like Yourself"
The standard dating advice of "being yourself" or "acting like yourself" (whatever the hell that means) is pure "Oprah-istic" B.S.
Learn to strike a balance between coming on like a phoney- baloney (which we talked about earlier), and seeming too safe and friendly. Seduction is a delicate bubble that can be burst with increasingly less effort as it ripens. A first date is NOT the place to remain in the role of your everyday average old sort of guy... that's spells B-O-R-I-N-G. A spark must be present to ignite the *fires of desire* in the old primal portion of her brain.
So that means you have to be EXCITED to be out with her! When you think about it, it should be easy to get juiced up... dating someone for the very first time is not something that happens every day in anyone's life. Face it, ordinary life sucks. Romance is a fantasy voyage, an escape from the 9 to 5 daily drudgery of work, etc. Treat this rare event for what it is... something unique, unrepeatable and potentially unforgettable. Even if she seems too cool to care, trust me... her romance motor is humming along in high gear.
5 ) Five Minutes Of Nerves Is Normal, Then Calm Down
After some initial awkwardness due to understandable jitters, you should be able to calm down and hit your stride. If you have a real problem controlling automatic body reactions to nervousness (bad sweating, stuttering, facial twitching, etc.) my best advice is to get a book on yoga and practice it WITH AN OPEN MIND. You don't have to go nuts and join the Green Party or anything, but DO try some of the deep breathing and relaxation techniques. They really work and can give you the self-control edge you might need. This will project through in your attitude as a cool confidence that is the unmistakable sign of a High Status Male!
Learn to always keep your movements around the women you're trying to seduce graceful and deliberate like a snake charmer. Modulate your voice in a throaty style (lowered volume) and keep the tone of your words sounding a little bit "conspiratorial" (without going overboard and making a fool of yourself). A squeaky voice spells fear and sounds adolescent, so strive to keep it in check. Be self-aware.
6 ) Obsession Is The Hallmark Of The Weak Male
Dominant males will show an interest in any attractive woman they encounter because they are highly sexually driven. But -- because they have many options with females open to them -- they do NOT act obsessive about any *particular* woman. So don't be obsessed with her... just be interested. Proclaiming ridiculously inappropriate nonsense like "...I love you" or "You're the girl I've been searching for my whole life..." on a first or second date is the frightening talk of the potential stalker. You become RADIOACTIVE to women once word of your engaging in this kind of bizarre behavior spreads. And it will spread... women gossip like demons. So chill the subservient groveling and act like you've been down the dating & mating road a few times already.
7 ) No Matter What Happens, Assume She Likes You... and Believe It
I'm not kidding here... this is an essential Jedi mind trick that you MUST somehow learn to play on yourself. Simply ASSUME that any woman you're working will *always* like you -- and do whatever the hell it takes to sell this idea to your unconscious mind! Women can become mesmerized by men who seem to be captivated by them. But this kind of 'vibe' can only shine through your body language if it's GENUINE -- and for that to happen, you have to believe that she will respond favorably to you... *no matter what*.
Remember... ATTITUDE + UNCONSCIOUS BELIEFS = THE TRUTH. Your attitude is a naked expression of your unconscious beliefs about yourself. Therefore, it is interpreted BY OTHERS as revealing the absolute truth about you... whether YOU like it or not. Control the self-image that you project to the world by pushing the crappy beliefs about yourself out of your brain, and replace them with empowering ones that will advance your own personal 'cause' for a change. Strive to deliberately manipulate this critical part of your consciousness, and watch your world change before your eyes like magic.
Before long, you'll soon have your pick of all the best looking women in YOUR world!

Everyone it seem, just love that penetrating :) tantilizing touch...that warm, relaxing and soothing feeling that massage brings to the senses.
Women just love massages. So suggesting that you give her a massage might make her bright eye light up with fond memories and anticipation of how good it can feel all over. You can bring up the subject by simply asking if she ever had a massage, or you can ask her questions like, "How do you pamper yourself" or "Seem like you work really hard, i hope you take time out to pamper yourself". Then take her there mentally, meaning you start to describe "the aroma of the room, the soothing feelings you feel, the relaxing music in the background that just massages your mind, the beautiful landscape that seem so peaceful...as you begin to feel more and more relaxed, at ease, and peaceful....making you feel so comfortable as if youre somewhere quiet and relaxing and peaceful....and it just feel unbelievably good the way the oil just caress your body..." etc etc.
Pre-Massage Prep: Once you both decide on the massage,
you need to take the time to prepare the venue. Never do it at her place. Always suggest her to come over to your place. Reason being, you have all the time in the world to do your Pre-Massage Prep.
Taking the time to create a sensual and appealing environment for your erotic massage shows that you care about her (even if you don't) and value her pleasure and interests. Start by turning off the phones, putting on some specially put together music. For example Bobby Valentine, R. Kelly, Joe, Maxwell, DA'ngello, etc...depending on who your guest is.
Illuminate the room with either candles or soft indirect lamps, burn some really sensual incense, select something that is lightly scented and neutral and turn up the heat to where one would be comfortable lying down naked. Now, be professional, make sure your finger nails are clipped, go out and get yourself a massage oil warmer, keep your lubricants and oils within easy reach, and cover the massage table with a blanket and place a clean sheet over this blanket. Guys, I do this all the time. No need for the table if you dont have one....spread that sheet (that you use for this purpose) on the bed, she will have no problem lying on it......and ofcourse you want her on the bed....:) Make sure to give her a towel to cover her backside, remember, you want to be professional...at least until you get her dripping wet :) ....which you will. Read on.
By the way, you can use pieces of (even fake) fur or feather for additional sensual tantalization, and an eye pillow or blindfold can be helpful in blocking out any unwanted light but this is not necessary.
Sensual Strokes:
Now for the action. For those who dont know any massage techniques you can go to Amazon.com and pick one up. If you look to the right, I have included some short video clips for your viewing pleasure.
Lay her nude (or semi-nude) body down on the bed and make sure she's in a comfortable position, this is important. Smooth the oil over her entire back in wide, smooth strokes with the flat part of your palm. Don't knead her body as yet. Just let the oil penetrate her skin as she gets used to your hands all over her :).
Rub her slowly and deeply: remember to be continuously sensual, but professional (for now) :-) Take your time and rub her in a way that makes her feel like you're willing to devote all the time in the world to her. And depending on the music, its more romantic and penetrating, mentally to massage her to the pace of the music. Keep your hands on her body at all times, ocasionally getting feedback as to how she likes it.
Work your way down from the back of her neck to her shoulders. Don't squeeze her neck because you may end up causing an unwanted choking sensation. If you're working the shoulders, be careful not to squeeze her collarbones with the muscle because it's an agonizing sensation.
Stretch out her arms and massage her biceps lightly with your fingertips. Work the back on either side of the spinal cord, but never push deeply on the spine itself. Use upward strokes laterally along the spine until you reach her tailbone. Feel free to tease the area around the base of the spine because it contains many sensitive nerve endings.
Give her a little TLC: After you've done your duty on her back and arms, work your way down to her legs, especially her inner thighs because they are incredibly sensitive. Her legs should be given special care. You don't have to be as cautious as with her back, but still remain gentle.
Rub her legs one section at a time, starting at her thighs, moving to her calves and finally ending at her feet. Now if you want to relax her some more, spend some time on her feet before saying, done.
After massaging her back, legs, and feet, have her turn over. Massage the chest, arms, and hands. Then glide down to the legs. It can feel good to
brush the genitals when going down to the legs. After finishing the fronts of the legs and feet, glide back up and slowly brush over the genitals, teasing them. This "unintentional" teasing can be drawn out by brushing the inner thighs near the genitals, very lightly touching the pubic region, etc. At this point her erotic energy is building and you will notice that shes all wet when you brush against the cochie. At this point you can gently kiss her stomach slowly working your way up to her breasts. Make sure you keep it in "massage mode" for a few, so as to get her more and more sexually aroused. Never get hasty with your moves but massage her body with your tongue and your kisses.....see cunnilingus.
At this point its over...she's gonna want you inside of her so bad, she wont even remember she was getting a massage. And you know what...she will never forget you :) A mater of fact she will be thinking about the experience so much that she will beg to come over next time.

Wingman: First of all lets clarify the term "wingman". A wingman is basically a close friend, aquaintance or relative with whom you would go out together with when prospecting women. He would have the same goal of meeting and seducing beautiful women and would have to know at least some of the strategies and techniques used. This is important, because you cannot be successful with your wingman unless he knows what he's doing. So the first thing you want to do is to show your wingman the ropes so to speak, and practice together.
Wingman Training: One of the best ways to train your wingman is to just go out there together and prospect women. Before you do that though, you want to give him the link to seducenow.com so he can study the articles on his own. He might want to start with our articles on confidence, openers, 3 second rule and eliciting values. Now i'm sure after reading the articles your wingman will be bucking to try out the new strategies. The next thing to do is to sit down and devise a signal or code, so that you both can use it during your conversation with the girl. There are two reasons why you want to have a common code. 1) To tell your wingman "lets go, shes a waste of time" and 2)To signal your wing man its ok for HIM to get her number.
Confidence Builder: You might be a very good talker and can talk any woman out of her pants, but you probably dont have the confidence when you do an initial approach. This is where your wingman can come in handy. It makes a big difference when you know you have a "backup", someone who can back you up when you say something wrong, or you find yourself lost for words. And think about scenario's where a woman will act rude to the point of walking away from you, or even try to insult you. With your wingman, you can do a number of things in response. You can both laugh at her, (to bring your ego back up), say something smart, or outright insult HER! Dont be afaid to tell a woman off, if she tries to embarrass or belittle you. You're a MAN with an ego and you shouldnt let anyone step on you and crush you like a little boy. See my neghits article on this.
Two On One: The two on one method cannot be performed without your wingman, ofcourse. What it consists of is a constant bombardment of your prey to the point of confusion and admiration. So for example lets say you approach a woman with a serious look. First thing you want to do is to make her smile. This colapses their defences and lets you right in.
So you say to her: "hmmmmm, romeo must have done it this time, always screwing up right (with a smile). What did he do this time?". That is sure to get a smile from her.
Then your wingman would come in and say something to rub it in like: "I think he hurt her really bad".
Her: "How do you know?"
Wingman: "I can see it in your eyes".
You: (jump right in) The eyes never lie! Let me ask you this though...bla bla bla
And the both of you just keep going at it back and forth with her until you develop that intense rapport with her. At this point you both should know which one of you she's most attracted to. Now the way I do it with my wingman is we play it by situation. If I feel like he should have a particular girl then I would use the secret signal and he would know to go for the digits. And he would do the same.
Conflicting Complements: Confilcting complements can work wonders when youre working with your wingman as long as you do it after you have established some good rapport with her. For one, she dosent know what to believe which is ok since it confuses her. So how do you make a confilcting comment. You do it with the help of your wingman. So if you complement her style of dress, with words such as: "I like the way your hairstyle complements your features (guys note the vagueness of that statement)"... your wingman would come ( with a smile ofcourse) and say something like: No it dosent! I dont think it complements her style". Now she might resent your wingman a bit, but it dosen't matter, because she's now drawing a wide chasm between both of you and shes comparing your wingman to you who was comparably sweet. This inivitably makes you more attractive and increases your chances for your # close. See article on closing.
Wingman Pressure Close: Sometimes your wingman can be the essential element in zeroing in on the close. And if he's atune to how the conversation is progressing (or regressing lol) he might do whats called a "pressure close" so you can do the close, get the digits and be out. What your wingman would do is get himself distracted by talking to another chick, looking at sneakers in a store nearby, talking on the phone...whatever. He just want to be away from the conversation for at least 5 minutes. Then he would come back in a hurry,looking at his watch until he says, Listen John, rememner we have to be at (wherever) at 6..why dont you just get her number and call her later. He just pressured him to do the close....so it now seem like he have to go so ofcourse he would need the number in order to continue the conversation later. The other benefit to this is, if she was really enjoying the interaction and she found him irristable and interesting, she would begin to feel she would be missing out on such a great guy. So the wingman "pressure close" would pressure her too.
Confirmation: One way to solidify what you say to anyone is to use third party. We do it everyday without even thinking. How many times we would say something, and to proof our argument we would turn to our friend, neighbor, whoever, and say...right Jane? ...right Paul? It brings credence and validity to our argument. Same strategy can be used when talking to women. You say something....dosen't even have to be something important. You could be telling her of a really romantic spot, by the river, overlooking the park, and its really close...but she seem to not believe. All you do is use your third party. Use your wingman to validate your statement. Remember, third party is always better than 1st party. Use your wingman.

Throughout life, we are confronted with barriers. In our culture, we acquire through parental upbringing, schooling, our peers as well as the media the two ways of dealing with barriers. We either struggle to overcome those barriers or give up. However, success requires transforming barriers into benefits. The art of Seduction is geared to win or influence another’s point of view to the seducer’s pleasure. Seduction has lead men astray from their principles and induced temptations of sex: Delilah’s sex appeal over Samson or Cleopatra’s over Marc Antony. Modern historians credit the art of Seduction to the success of Hillary Rodham Clinton in winning over the people of New York.
The art of Seduction offers dynamic appeals, teasing, withdrawing, and a charming demeanor mirroring allure and enchantment. Seduction is flirtatious and frequently erotic in relational performances. Methods of seduction include revealing photographs, sexy lingeries, or a mere purposeful act or movement that entails incredible charm and precision. Modern science in magnetic techniques exudes charisma to the amateur Seducer.
There are the Kama Sutra, Greek Mythology, Tao te Ching, a scented perfume and even just plain therapeutic humor. Hypnosis is a popular method in the art of Seduction defined as “a narrowing focus of attention or resonating with the anti-suggestive barrier of the mind” (Hogan, 2004). Hypnotic seduction is about smooth talking to captivate attention while suggesting a course of action that will be followed. Hypnotic seduction is exciting and intoxicating!
Often seduction was associated with coquetry, the bar scene, and sexual adventurism. Traditionalists leered over the seductress's threat to masculine privilege, societal norms, and essentialist notions of female etiquette. While the art of Seduction is practiced by both men and women of today, the oppressive western rationalism of the past had resisted and even disciplined its expression. Seduction is promoted by liberationist and represents an expression of managed desire, a display of female power as well as an arena of freedom built on a dialect of consent and refusal.
The art of Seduction is the empowerment primarily exploited by women to create and re-create themselves in society's eyes. Recovering the seductive arts as a means of addressing women's issues is an ideologically bold proposition. “The Last Seduction”, a 1994 movie that portrayed the baddest of the bad women successfully attempted that notion. The steamy movie has been haled as the most full-blown yet utterly believable femme fatale to come along in years. As Bridget, the nasty lady from the big city, actress Linda Florentino plays “the kind of woman who will spend the night with a guy and go into the kitchen the next morning and put out her cigarette in his grandma's apple pie” (LaSalle, 1995). Her power derives from everyone else's inability to believe any human being can be that rotten. The best part was sensing the fact that the movie will not be twisted into the conformity of some expected formula. Ebert of the Chicago Sun Times hales the movie: "The Last Seduction is not only ingenious and entertaining, but liberating“(Ebert, 1994). The art of Seduction theory flaunts modernity.
Finally, the major feature of seduction is the illusion or delusion of reality, producing a sort of flickering, hypnotic state of mind that mesmerizes attention outside rationality. Seductive teasing signals a longed-for decision or anticipated course of action that remains in question. The seduction becomes desired and perceived as a predicator for a future. The teasing evokes potential outcomes in the imagination and acknowledges a pre-conceived positive future.The experience of being captivated is an ecstatic state of wonderment, exhilaration, joy and even orgasmic! The enabling tension between absence and presence, desire and fulfillment as well as anticipation and closure helps negotiate a seductive attractiveness. The seductive sweeps the listener off his or her feet which fosters abandonment and celebration of the moment to open the listener to vulnerability and control.
To grow spiritually we must experience and know, or be a slave to other people’s opinions and doctrine. As the 21st century unfolds, the time has come for us to recognize our true potential and to explore beyond the prevailing beliefs and convictions. The benefits of such an out-of-body experience that extend far beyond the limits of our physical senses and our intellect.