Everything starts with meeting women in the first place. One of the most easy ways to meet women is by putting yourself in a situation where it's your job to talk to them.
Yeah, you heard me hahaha...
I used to work promoting a nightclub, it's the best and I
recommend you do it. You can keep your day-job. Your new
job will be to chat up people between 10pm and 1am and
getting them to go into the club, usually on the weekend,
obviously. Then you go to the club for more promotive
social interaction there, and you can always give it a
personal and a flirtatious note!
You never have to think about an opener again. Write your
phone number on flyers you hand out to a cute girl you
like. Or just tell her that you'll see her later in the club.
Make sure you work for a happening club, so girls will be
interested in your chit-chat and not be annoyed by
advertisement. I used to do it for a really trendy club
that's world famous. Every girl stopped dead in her tracks
Hell, how that worked, and I got paid for it!
Another bonus in the club I did it for (and you wanna try
and find something like that): we were doing the promotion
thing in a group of about 12 people, all of us wearing VIP
t-shirts, and guess what - most of those 12 people were the
stunning female gogo-dancers of the club! That's tripple
huge social proof:
1. you're with a group of cool people,
2. you're with lots of beautiful women,
3. you're VIP in this hip location...
How To Get PAID for Picking up Girls
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 03:33 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
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The Secrets of Body Language
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 03:32 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
What do you say when you don’t say anything?
Everything.
We dance around this topic all the time, but it’s ready for the spotlight: body language. This is the most important thing not just when dealing with women, but with communication period.
Nothing else even comes close.
Wonder why that thick-as-a-post jock got all the women when charming funny nervous sitcom-character-in-waiting guy got nothing in high school?
Body language.
Why James Bond got his pick of the litter and the brilliant Q got more quality time with gadgets?
Body language.
Why that homely busboy at the corner Italian restaurant takes home all the gorgeous patrons and the handsome maitre-de takes home doggy bags?
Garlic. The busboy stank of it and THAT is a huge turn-on.
Just seeing if you were paying attention.
All those other things you THOUGHT did the trick were just extra fuel for the fodder. Body language is the key to EVERYTHING.
Why? Because it is the symptom that tells you everything you need to know about the INSIDE of a person.
It clues you in to the person’s confidence, their openness, even their sexual skills. And if you send out the wrong signals – which most people do – then you’ve given yourself a SERIOUS hole to dig out from.
Conversely, if your movements say the right things you are on top of a BIG mountain that you’d have to work to screw up.
The unfortunate thing is you have a CHOICE about what you say, and most don’t realize it. Or they choose to ignore it and remain “themselves,” as if we are static representations of an image that never changes.
WRONG. WRONG WRONG WRONG! If there was a hand near me, I’d slap it. Good thing I type with my feet.
People are dynamic, and ever-changing. In fact, we are NEVER the same as we were in the past. Those changes show up in our body language, but that doesn’t mean we should abandon control.
If so, we wouldn’t bother with school, riding a bike, and everyone would still be a virgin. After all, we were all virgins once, weren’t we?
Look, there’s a difference between being UNAWARE of something, and being INDIFFERENT. Unaware just means we don’t know what we’re doing with ourselves. Ignorance may be bliss, but it’s not helpful.
Indifference is when you know what’s going on, but you choose to ignore it. WRONG! Where’s that hand!
You can’t be passive all your life and expect things to come to you. The world doesn’t work that way (my apologies to all silver-spooners I’ve offended with this blanket statement that merely applies to 100% of all living things, rounded to the closest .00000001).
You need to be ACTIVE. You need to TAKE CHARGE of your life, and that means taking an ACTIVE role in the changes that happen to you.
They’re coming either way. Personally, I’d rather have a vote.
So no whining about the walk you’ve developed and how that represents YOU as you are now. If that walk doesn’t work, kill it. Time to get a new one.
And there’s a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world.
It also can change your inner one.
Seriously, this works. The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind, and a clean one, a clear one. The outer world touches our inner one, and when you change the way you move, you also change the way you think.
Don’t believe me? Try it. Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. Your feet, butt, shoulders, and head should all touch the wall, exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). Now walk away from the wall, but hold the pose for 5 minutes.
How do you feel? Right, like someone stuck a pole up your ass. Just what we were going for.
It’s going to feel weird for awhile, because it’s different and new. Keep going, though, and eventually it won’t feel weird. In fact, it’ll start to feel GOOD. You’ll find yourself with this new CONFIDENCE that wasn’t there before and doesn’t seem to have much of an explanation.
Except that you are standing like you are confident. Cause and affect get blurred, and you wind up FEELING a certain way just because you are ACTING that way.
Either way, you look better standing straight, and you project confidence to all comers. Women find you more attractive, even if they aren’t self-aware enough to know why. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem… DIFFERENT.
Congratulations young Jedi, you’re on your way.
Standing up straight is about as basic as it comes, but non-verbal communication goes much deeper.
When you walk and lead with your head, not only are you hunching and sending out uncomfortable self-conscious shrinking vibes, but you’re also telling people that you tend to THINK a lot. Maybe more than you should.
Lead with your stomach, it speaks to your appetites and emotions.
Lead with your pelvis, and it says you are sexually experienced and confident.
This might sound like a lot of new-agey crap, but try it. Walk around for awhile leading with different parts of your body, and notice the changes that happen in your head. It’s real, VERY real. And there’s no reason bad chairs in abandoned classrooms should have more of a say about how you feel than you do.
Those nervous tics, those fidgety hands? Lose ‘em. Every button you finger while talking to someone – especially an attractive woman who’s trying to make a snap judgment about you – is a negative. Every fast jerky motion says you have low self-esteem – it’s like you have to get it done before some stronger guy comes along to stop you.
It’s like the beta wolves trying to feed before the alpha wakes up and wants more – complete with herky-jerky looks to check for his approach. This shit runs deep.
When you make eye-contact and drop it first. Oh god no. In our part of the animal kingdom, this is strong supplicating behavior. There are monkeys which tear the arms off other animals – including humans – if they don’t drop gaze first.
So if you are looking at a woman and look away before she does? You’ve just said she’s in control, and her chances of becoming attracted to you pretty much disappear.
That’s not to say you stare from a far distance. That’s stalker behavior – when far enough away betas get bolder – and she’ll think you a freak. This is about close quarters, the moment before a conversation starts.
Crossing your arms? Stop that. You’re telling everyone to stay away, so don’t be surprised when they do.
Leaning in to your target? Why not just say “I want to have sex with you.” That’s exactly what you’re doing, and most guys do it so early that it’s a major turn-off (unlike once she’s primed, in which case it can start speeding things up).
Standing in her personal space (which for most people is about 18 inches to 3 feet away)? You’re triggering her to run away, which is NOT a feeling you want linked with you. Standing right on the border of her personal space? This can be golden if you do it right, creating a certain tension in her mind although she probably won’t know what from. Much like really needing to piss can lead to a boner, this tension can become sexual.
Standing well outside her personal space and not directing your body at her, remaining somewhat detached? Now that’s good – she’s gonna want to know why she doesn’t have your attention, and might start working to get YOUR approval. Don’tcha love that?
There are thousands of little cues we give off to each other, and the BEST way to learn them is to see them in action. Go out and find some guys doing well with the ladies. Watch them, see what they’re doing with their bodies, and what responses they are getting. If you think you’ve identified a non-verbal communication that signals confidence or sexual prowess or just general alpha-ness, go practice it. Try it out. Odds are you won’t get it the first time, but don’t let that discourage you. There is no better way.
The second-best way, though, is by studying the subject using the material iny my course Non-Verbal Sexual Cueing, now available in audio CD. Everything contained in this newsletter is covered in much greater detail, as well as hundreds of other helpful hints and techniques that will correctly adjust and fine tune the nuances your body language.
Everything.
We dance around this topic all the time, but it’s ready for the spotlight: body language. This is the most important thing not just when dealing with women, but with communication period.
Nothing else even comes close.
Wonder why that thick-as-a-post jock got all the women when charming funny nervous sitcom-character-in-waiting guy got nothing in high school?
Body language.
Why James Bond got his pick of the litter and the brilliant Q got more quality time with gadgets?
Body language.
Why that homely busboy at the corner Italian restaurant takes home all the gorgeous patrons and the handsome maitre-de takes home doggy bags?
Garlic. The busboy stank of it and THAT is a huge turn-on.
Just seeing if you were paying attention.
All those other things you THOUGHT did the trick were just extra fuel for the fodder. Body language is the key to EVERYTHING.
Why? Because it is the symptom that tells you everything you need to know about the INSIDE of a person.
It clues you in to the person’s confidence, their openness, even their sexual skills. And if you send out the wrong signals – which most people do – then you’ve given yourself a SERIOUS hole to dig out from.
Conversely, if your movements say the right things you are on top of a BIG mountain that you’d have to work to screw up.
The unfortunate thing is you have a CHOICE about what you say, and most don’t realize it. Or they choose to ignore it and remain “themselves,” as if we are static representations of an image that never changes.
WRONG. WRONG WRONG WRONG! If there was a hand near me, I’d slap it. Good thing I type with my feet.
People are dynamic, and ever-changing. In fact, we are NEVER the same as we were in the past. Those changes show up in our body language, but that doesn’t mean we should abandon control.
If so, we wouldn’t bother with school, riding a bike, and everyone would still be a virgin. After all, we were all virgins once, weren’t we?
Look, there’s a difference between being UNAWARE of something, and being INDIFFERENT. Unaware just means we don’t know what we’re doing with ourselves. Ignorance may be bliss, but it’s not helpful.
Indifference is when you know what’s going on, but you choose to ignore it. WRONG! Where’s that hand!
You can’t be passive all your life and expect things to come to you. The world doesn’t work that way (my apologies to all silver-spooners I’ve offended with this blanket statement that merely applies to 100% of all living things, rounded to the closest .00000001).
You need to be ACTIVE. You need to TAKE CHARGE of your life, and that means taking an ACTIVE role in the changes that happen to you.
They’re coming either way. Personally, I’d rather have a vote.
So no whining about the walk you’ve developed and how that represents YOU as you are now. If that walk doesn’t work, kill it. Time to get a new one.
And there’s a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world.
It also can change your inner one.
Seriously, this works. The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind, and a clean one, a clear one. The outer world touches our inner one, and when you change the way you move, you also change the way you think.
Don’t believe me? Try it. Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. Your feet, butt, shoulders, and head should all touch the wall, exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). Now walk away from the wall, but hold the pose for 5 minutes.
How do you feel? Right, like someone stuck a pole up your ass. Just what we were going for.
It’s going to feel weird for awhile, because it’s different and new. Keep going, though, and eventually it won’t feel weird. In fact, it’ll start to feel GOOD. You’ll find yourself with this new CONFIDENCE that wasn’t there before and doesn’t seem to have much of an explanation.
Except that you are standing like you are confident. Cause and affect get blurred, and you wind up FEELING a certain way just because you are ACTING that way.
Either way, you look better standing straight, and you project confidence to all comers. Women find you more attractive, even if they aren’t self-aware enough to know why. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem… DIFFERENT.
Congratulations young Jedi, you’re on your way.
Standing up straight is about as basic as it comes, but non-verbal communication goes much deeper.
When you walk and lead with your head, not only are you hunching and sending out uncomfortable self-conscious shrinking vibes, but you’re also telling people that you tend to THINK a lot. Maybe more than you should.
Lead with your stomach, it speaks to your appetites and emotions.
Lead with your pelvis, and it says you are sexually experienced and confident.
This might sound like a lot of new-agey crap, but try it. Walk around for awhile leading with different parts of your body, and notice the changes that happen in your head. It’s real, VERY real. And there’s no reason bad chairs in abandoned classrooms should have more of a say about how you feel than you do.
Those nervous tics, those fidgety hands? Lose ‘em. Every button you finger while talking to someone – especially an attractive woman who’s trying to make a snap judgment about you – is a negative. Every fast jerky motion says you have low self-esteem – it’s like you have to get it done before some stronger guy comes along to stop you.
It’s like the beta wolves trying to feed before the alpha wakes up and wants more – complete with herky-jerky looks to check for his approach. This shit runs deep.
When you make eye-contact and drop it first. Oh god no. In our part of the animal kingdom, this is strong supplicating behavior. There are monkeys which tear the arms off other animals – including humans – if they don’t drop gaze first.
So if you are looking at a woman and look away before she does? You’ve just said she’s in control, and her chances of becoming attracted to you pretty much disappear.
That’s not to say you stare from a far distance. That’s stalker behavior – when far enough away betas get bolder – and she’ll think you a freak. This is about close quarters, the moment before a conversation starts.
Crossing your arms? Stop that. You’re telling everyone to stay away, so don’t be surprised when they do.
Leaning in to your target? Why not just say “I want to have sex with you.” That’s exactly what you’re doing, and most guys do it so early that it’s a major turn-off (unlike once she’s primed, in which case it can start speeding things up).
Standing in her personal space (which for most people is about 18 inches to 3 feet away)? You’re triggering her to run away, which is NOT a feeling you want linked with you. Standing right on the border of her personal space? This can be golden if you do it right, creating a certain tension in her mind although she probably won’t know what from. Much like really needing to piss can lead to a boner, this tension can become sexual.
Standing well outside her personal space and not directing your body at her, remaining somewhat detached? Now that’s good – she’s gonna want to know why she doesn’t have your attention, and might start working to get YOUR approval. Don’tcha love that?
There are thousands of little cues we give off to each other, and the BEST way to learn them is to see them in action. Go out and find some guys doing well with the ladies. Watch them, see what they’re doing with their bodies, and what responses they are getting. If you think you’ve identified a non-verbal communication that signals confidence or sexual prowess or just general alpha-ness, go practice it. Try it out. Odds are you won’t get it the first time, but don’t let that discourage you. There is no better way.
The second-best way, though, is by studying the subject using the material iny my course Non-Verbal Sexual Cueing, now available in audio CD. Everything contained in this newsletter is covered in much greater detail, as well as hundreds of other helpful hints and techniques that will correctly adjust and fine tune the nuances your body language.
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3 Second Rule
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 03:29 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
The point of the 3 second rule is to encourage you to approach women fast enough to keep your internal voice from talking you out of it and
avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervousness to your mental state and gives her time to size you up and possibly decide not to talk to you - a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.
No Short Cut: Some guys will get close to a woman, while doing something else, perhaps, with the illusion that she will say "hi" or that somehow, by being close to her, he will increase the chances of talking together with her. Maybe so, however, most times this fails. Why does this fail? Doing that, also deminishes your manhood. She realises you want to talk to her, yet you adapt a childish, jelly-back way of getting close. She starts to think, "this guy is not a man, hes a jelly-back!" Even if you get to talk to her, somehow, your chances of penetrating her is next to nill.
Just do it. Go! Act in 3 second seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 second seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you put yourself in a weaker state. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary of bad outcomes and add undue insecurity to your approach.
Using this rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity
to present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3 second rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of a weak jelly-back, lacking confidence, quality, power, or assertiveness. Being a weakling around women is a big turnoff to beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3 second rule, you weren't that way when you initiated contact. The first impression is what counts. Guys! If that first impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be upbeat and positive, which greatly minimizes the chance of you trembling while talking with her. It sets the pace and helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep your confidence up.
The 3 second rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when she enters your environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and is free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking. Keep it moving!
There is a reason it's a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation. Successful people make quick decisions and change them rarely. After seeing the chick, just do it! Dont rather wait around to think about the "perfect" opener or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most guys just stand/sit around, drooling @ the chick they want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the approach. While they stand/sit there, the voice in their head goes through every possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They cause themselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do the approach, they are walking up to her as a nervous wreck. In the mean time the chick had time to size him up and to consider him a wimp and a jelly-back to be discarded. The longer you wait, the more time gets created for cockblock scenarios to present themselves....
avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervousness to your mental state and gives her time to size you up and possibly decide not to talk to you - a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.
No Short Cut: Some guys will get close to a woman, while doing something else, perhaps, with the illusion that she will say "hi" or that somehow, by being close to her, he will increase the chances of talking together with her. Maybe so, however, most times this fails. Why does this fail? Doing that, also deminishes your manhood. She realises you want to talk to her, yet you adapt a childish, jelly-back way of getting close. She starts to think, "this guy is not a man, hes a jelly-back!" Even if you get to talk to her, somehow, your chances of penetrating her is next to nill.
Just do it. Go! Act in 3 second seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 second seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you put yourself in a weaker state. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary of bad outcomes and add undue insecurity to your approach.
Using this rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity
to present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3 second rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of a weak jelly-back, lacking confidence, quality, power, or assertiveness. Being a weakling around women is a big turnoff to beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3 second rule, you weren't that way when you initiated contact. The first impression is what counts. Guys! If that first impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be upbeat and positive, which greatly minimizes the chance of you trembling while talking with her. It sets the pace and helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep your confidence up.
The 3 second rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when she enters your environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and is free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking. Keep it moving!
There is a reason it's a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation. Successful people make quick decisions and change them rarely. After seeing the chick, just do it! Dont rather wait around to think about the "perfect" opener or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most guys just stand/sit around, drooling @ the chick they want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the approach. While they stand/sit there, the voice in their head goes through every possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They cause themselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do the approach, they are walking up to her as a nervous wreck. In the mean time the chick had time to size him up and to consider him a wimp and a jelly-back to be discarded. The longer you wait, the more time gets created for cockblock scenarios to present themselves....
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Getting Her To Initiate Sex
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 03:28 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
You know why men are always chasing women and not the other way around, right? It’s because we want it more. Men love sex in a way women never will, and that’s why, always, sooner or later, it’s the man practically (or literally) begging for it while the women tend to get frequent headaches farther into relationships.
Right? I mean, that’s what conventional wisdom has come up with, right? And an opinion thousands of years in the making has to have the truth behind it. We all know that.
Wrong. So wrong. I’m ready to jump through the screen and throttle whoever came up with this brilliant idea. The only thing holding me back is the fact he’s so long dead.
If he wasn’t, I’d want to finish the job myself.
This is one of the greatest fallacies in all of life. Listen, men have one basic kind of orgasm. One. It can vary in intensity, sure, and sometimes it’ll even be stimulated by something other than direct contact, but it’s really just variations on a theme. That’s just how we’re built.
For a woman, the closest thing to our one orgasm is a clitoral one. But here’s the thing: women have TWO MORE kinds, arguably THREE. In addition to the clitoral, they also have the g-spot, the v-spot (deep in the vagina) and the vaginal, if you argue that isn’t related.
All those orgasms produce different feelings – feelings that men can imagine, but we can never truly know. And if a woman winds up having two OR MORE kinds of orgasms SIMULTANEOUSLY, WATCH OUT. During the height of perfect intimacy we can get a vicarious taste of this – or if you’re deeply tantric, you may believe that your feelings literally meld and a guy can get the full affect – but 999 out of 1000 male lives will never come close to approaching the levels of feeling that women can get out of sex. We’re just not built that way.
Almost makes you jealous, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, quite a few women never really explore this, and if you can learn how to help a woman along, you’ll never be alone again. But that’s a topic for another newsletter.
Wait a sec, you think, this is supposed isn’t this supposed to be a newsletter about relationships? Why does it only seem to be about sex?
Ah my brothers, this has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. I just wanted to point out, first of all, that men do NOT have to want sex more than women. They usually don’t. Women are simply more subtle, and also more finicky (blame evolution).
A woman can’t be turned on just like that. I show you a naked picture of Angelina Jolie, within seconds you could be pounding nails with your tool. Show a woman a naked Brad Pitt, and you aren’t likely to get the same reaction.
I don’t mean her nipples will be insufficiently stimulated to drive that same nail, either.
While men tend to be visual, women tend to be cognitive. She needs her MIND turned on before she gets in the mood.
Trust me, she WANTS to be in the mood, almost certainly more than you. But just because you get hard at the sight of her nightie, that doesn’t mean she’s ready.
And here’s the problem. Men get aroused so much faster than women that oftentimes they move too quickly. The woman wants sex, but not yet, and the guy is already moving fast into foreplay or, worse penetration.
For the woman, that’s just no fun. That’s not the lovemaking she wants. If you move too quick she may join in for YOU, but not for her. And this starts to become a pattern. Pretty soon she’s looking at sex as a chore, a way to keep you happy, but all the while she’s not being made happy.
This is when those pesky headaches start to appear.
This is when the man starts getting grabby, pawing, begging, putting himself in the position of weakness.
Now things are getting even worse, because that kind of wussy behavior is worse than nothing, it’s the ANTITHESIS of arousing for a woman. It’d be like if a woman took out her teeth before she started kissing you, EVERY TIME. Or removed a breast. Think of your own disgusting physical turn-off, and that’s exactly what you’re doing to her mentally.
Sex becomes less frequent, and MORE of a bothersome task for her. This leads to the man begging all the more, leading to the woman wanting it less and less, until it basically disappears.
The man becomes distraught, MORE pathetic in his attempts, and suddenly your abstinent. Or dumped. Or – worst? – cheated on.
As Dean Wormer might have said, abstinent, begging, and weak is no way to go through life, son.
So how do you keep from letting this happen? It’s simple. Maybe hard in practice, but simple in theory.
DON’T BEG.
Don’t paw, don’t coyly place her hand on your crotch, don’t plead for a little sweetness. Even if you get it that way – less and less as time goes by – the sex won’t be the kind of passionate embrace it should be.
No, it MUST be.
You’ve got to learn to lean back, ESPECIALLY when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. You need to turn her on MENTALLY, and let her show you when she’s ready.
Don’t worry about her knowing about you. We have a handy flag raised whenever we’re in the mood.
A woman, though, needs to be turned on more patiently, much more slowly. When she’s ready to move up a level, she’ll certainly let you know, most likely in a physical way.
If you can give her a little then draw back – tease her a bit – then you’ll REALLY start to see something.
You want HER pawing YOU. SHE should be begging YOU for sex – in a playful way, of course, but nonetheless, YOU should be the one holding out longer.
This will help ensure that she REALLY is in the mood by the time you get down to it – which in turn leads to amazing sex.
Much better than a distracted handjob during Conan that she does just to get you to shut up.
Retain the POWER and the CONTROL in the bedroom. There is a LONG history behind this, but the long and short of it is this is a SEXY THING on a man.
Unless you’ve got a dominatrix, submission and pleading is not.
Feel free to play around with this. Some of the most EXPLOSIVE sex I’ve ever had was when I’d built a woman up to great heights, she wanted to keep climbing, and I suddenly stopped, lay back, and said through a knowing grin “No. You don’t want it enough yet.” A woman can get nearly VIOLENT in her passion after something like that, if she’s been built up correctly.
This sort of sexual tension works almost all the time. Of course sometimes, for whatever reason, it won’t. The key then is:
SUCK IT UP.
Go a night without. Don’t pout. Don’t EVER beg. Don’t even cajole. You might get something that moment, but you’re damaging your sex life in the long run. You are losing your attractiveness.
Remember, SHE’S the one who is going to be experiencing depths of feeling outside the ordinary experience of men the world over. If she knows that you can provide those feelings and you don’t do anything to screw up your sexual appeal, she WILL come to YOU.
You know, people DO get REAL headaches sometimes. A lot of bouncing isn’t pleasant. Don’t plant unpleasant experiences in her head when she thinks of you and sex. You want them ALL to be GREAT. Now no one can be on all the time, but even if every single experience isn’t fantastic, most of them SHOULD be, and there should be NO negative ones.
So we all need to be little Fonzies. And what’s Fonzie like? Correctomundo, cool. If the night ain’t right, let it lie.
And if it is, let HER show YOU. Your job is to get her in the mood. After that, making love to her is something you CHOOSE to do for HER, not for your rocks.
Forget about your rocks. Think with your cool, and your rocks will be happy. Let the rocks lead you around, and they’ll wind up blue, sooner or later.
Right? I mean, that’s what conventional wisdom has come up with, right? And an opinion thousands of years in the making has to have the truth behind it. We all know that.
Wrong. So wrong. I’m ready to jump through the screen and throttle whoever came up with this brilliant idea. The only thing holding me back is the fact he’s so long dead.
If he wasn’t, I’d want to finish the job myself.
This is one of the greatest fallacies in all of life. Listen, men have one basic kind of orgasm. One. It can vary in intensity, sure, and sometimes it’ll even be stimulated by something other than direct contact, but it’s really just variations on a theme. That’s just how we’re built.
For a woman, the closest thing to our one orgasm is a clitoral one. But here’s the thing: women have TWO MORE kinds, arguably THREE. In addition to the clitoral, they also have the g-spot, the v-spot (deep in the vagina) and the vaginal, if you argue that isn’t related.
All those orgasms produce different feelings – feelings that men can imagine, but we can never truly know. And if a woman winds up having two OR MORE kinds of orgasms SIMULTANEOUSLY, WATCH OUT. During the height of perfect intimacy we can get a vicarious taste of this – or if you’re deeply tantric, you may believe that your feelings literally meld and a guy can get the full affect – but 999 out of 1000 male lives will never come close to approaching the levels of feeling that women can get out of sex. We’re just not built that way.
Almost makes you jealous, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, quite a few women never really explore this, and if you can learn how to help a woman along, you’ll never be alone again. But that’s a topic for another newsletter.
Wait a sec, you think, this is supposed isn’t this supposed to be a newsletter about relationships? Why does it only seem to be about sex?
Ah my brothers, this has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. I just wanted to point out, first of all, that men do NOT have to want sex more than women. They usually don’t. Women are simply more subtle, and also more finicky (blame evolution).
A woman can’t be turned on just like that. I show you a naked picture of Angelina Jolie, within seconds you could be pounding nails with your tool. Show a woman a naked Brad Pitt, and you aren’t likely to get the same reaction.
I don’t mean her nipples will be insufficiently stimulated to drive that same nail, either.
While men tend to be visual, women tend to be cognitive. She needs her MIND turned on before she gets in the mood.
Trust me, she WANTS to be in the mood, almost certainly more than you. But just because you get hard at the sight of her nightie, that doesn’t mean she’s ready.
And here’s the problem. Men get aroused so much faster than women that oftentimes they move too quickly. The woman wants sex, but not yet, and the guy is already moving fast into foreplay or, worse penetration.
For the woman, that’s just no fun. That’s not the lovemaking she wants. If you move too quick she may join in for YOU, but not for her. And this starts to become a pattern. Pretty soon she’s looking at sex as a chore, a way to keep you happy, but all the while she’s not being made happy.
This is when those pesky headaches start to appear.
This is when the man starts getting grabby, pawing, begging, putting himself in the position of weakness.
Now things are getting even worse, because that kind of wussy behavior is worse than nothing, it’s the ANTITHESIS of arousing for a woman. It’d be like if a woman took out her teeth before she started kissing you, EVERY TIME. Or removed a breast. Think of your own disgusting physical turn-off, and that’s exactly what you’re doing to her mentally.
Sex becomes less frequent, and MORE of a bothersome task for her. This leads to the man begging all the more, leading to the woman wanting it less and less, until it basically disappears.
The man becomes distraught, MORE pathetic in his attempts, and suddenly your abstinent. Or dumped. Or – worst? – cheated on.
As Dean Wormer might have said, abstinent, begging, and weak is no way to go through life, son.
So how do you keep from letting this happen? It’s simple. Maybe hard in practice, but simple in theory.
DON’T BEG.
Don’t paw, don’t coyly place her hand on your crotch, don’t plead for a little sweetness. Even if you get it that way – less and less as time goes by – the sex won’t be the kind of passionate embrace it should be.
No, it MUST be.
You’ve got to learn to lean back, ESPECIALLY when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. You need to turn her on MENTALLY, and let her show you when she’s ready.
Don’t worry about her knowing about you. We have a handy flag raised whenever we’re in the mood.
A woman, though, needs to be turned on more patiently, much more slowly. When she’s ready to move up a level, she’ll certainly let you know, most likely in a physical way.
If you can give her a little then draw back – tease her a bit – then you’ll REALLY start to see something.
You want HER pawing YOU. SHE should be begging YOU for sex – in a playful way, of course, but nonetheless, YOU should be the one holding out longer.
This will help ensure that she REALLY is in the mood by the time you get down to it – which in turn leads to amazing sex.
Much better than a distracted handjob during Conan that she does just to get you to shut up.
Retain the POWER and the CONTROL in the bedroom. There is a LONG history behind this, but the long and short of it is this is a SEXY THING on a man.
Unless you’ve got a dominatrix, submission and pleading is not.
Feel free to play around with this. Some of the most EXPLOSIVE sex I’ve ever had was when I’d built a woman up to great heights, she wanted to keep climbing, and I suddenly stopped, lay back, and said through a knowing grin “No. You don’t want it enough yet.” A woman can get nearly VIOLENT in her passion after something like that, if she’s been built up correctly.
This sort of sexual tension works almost all the time. Of course sometimes, for whatever reason, it won’t. The key then is:
SUCK IT UP.
Go a night without. Don’t pout. Don’t EVER beg. Don’t even cajole. You might get something that moment, but you’re damaging your sex life in the long run. You are losing your attractiveness.
Remember, SHE’S the one who is going to be experiencing depths of feeling outside the ordinary experience of men the world over. If she knows that you can provide those feelings and you don’t do anything to screw up your sexual appeal, she WILL come to YOU.
You know, people DO get REAL headaches sometimes. A lot of bouncing isn’t pleasant. Don’t plant unpleasant experiences in her head when she thinks of you and sex. You want them ALL to be GREAT. Now no one can be on all the time, but even if every single experience isn’t fantastic, most of them SHOULD be, and there should be NO negative ones.
So we all need to be little Fonzies. And what’s Fonzie like? Correctomundo, cool. If the night ain’t right, let it lie.
And if it is, let HER show YOU. Your job is to get her in the mood. After that, making love to her is something you CHOOSE to do for HER, not for your rocks.
Forget about your rocks. Think with your cool, and your rocks will be happy. Let the rocks lead you around, and they’ll wind up blue, sooner or later.
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Hidden Education
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 02:05 PM [Binary and Trinary Code]
There is an education method deep within you that is as old as time itself. Used by every living and non living thing out there. You all have heard of it, However understand that 99% of country's do not use it. Most people think its just something for computers. This was fully mapped and discovered 7,500-10,000 years ago. Written in the oldest spiritual book in history. A book with no words, yet it separated us from the animals. I bet all of you have seen the hygrograph, Its the Yin-Yang. Represents the Yi-Ching Oracle. The Yi-Ching book of changes is 7,500-10,000 years old. Its teachings thought our active mind to be aware of a code, the code of life (Also know en and The Binary code or genome code.) The first computer ever built was not in the 60's, it was when man was separated from the animals. 10,000 years ago, and the CPU processing speed was the human hand. These computers are know en as Yi-Ching, also the 5,000 year old teaching of Egyptian Tarot. 2005 years ago is when I believe for the first time 1 human mind fully understood this binary notary code counting system. However, the rest of the un-civilized world was maybe 2000 years behind this man, they didn't warship him instead they feared him and put him threw tremendous conflict, that maybe why he is worshipped today, we are catching up with his time. This man was Jesus Christ. He was no different than Yi-Ching, Tarot, Zeus or the Giya. His instincts was trying to make the whole human collective conscious aware of this code of life. Then the Bible is written, who ever wrote it was probably trying to explain the same thing and using Jesus as an example.
The bible has many things in it that the Yi-Ching book of changes had. The prediction in the bible of Armageddon, Astrology has been explaining it for 10,000 years. They called it the ending of the 8th house cusp during the 8th octave. Now that's some very advanced Astrology. I discovered this when this 2000 year's 8th house cusp came around which was just months before the GLA attack on 9/11. Very strange to because I am born 01-19-84 the 8th house cusp, that's between Capricorn and Aquarius. When we entered the 8th house cusp I for some god knows why reason, I am eating 16 Coricidid cough and cold pills every day for 5 weeks straight. These pills contain Cyanarcalate Cloraphine Maetate. Which is a type 3 fuel, also know en as gasified fuel or rocket fuel. Believe it or not rocket fuel is what decongest your airways in cold medicine. Also is used as the fuel that mixes with oxygen in super glue to burn and melt the liquid plastic into its surface. Its also the fuel that sent the Saturn 5 rocket to the moon in 4 days. It was burning threw my liver making its way to the most vital part of every living species. It is the Primary sigma receptor for the central nervous system. (sigma Receptors are drug receptors with memory banks.)
The CYP2D6 Instinct brain is the very first thing made when the sperm meets the egg. The egg kinda acts as a temp housing unit until its finished. It is know en as the CYP2D6 sigma receptor. We call it CYP2D6 because this instinct brain is found on every living life form in existence. The one in your liver has no different physical structure then the one in the nucleus of a single cell organisms, it would be that tiny dot. We name it by the first 6 parts of the species genome code. Human's CYP2D6 Sigma receptor will intake CYP class drugs and maintain a sober catalyst reaction level of 2D6. Back to Yi-Ching book of changes for one quick realization. In the oldest spiritual book in history, they said this Yin-Yang Oracle Knows all and lives all. Evan many modern religions talk about some sort of spiritual energy in the body. Well Modern man found an energy in the body that just so happens to be apart of everything, Electricity. In the 1930's The belief of electricity being the purest form of intelligence was put to the test. Some one probably realized that the only thing electricity needs to become self aware of its self is a computer to run threw. (the central Nervous system is the biological Computer and the Genome Code is the Biological Binary code.)
Looking back at what the Yin-Yang was saying about this Binary code is the code of life itself, in the 1930's we made the electricity follow this binary code and we spawned the greatest technical advance in human history. We call it Artificial Intelligence, thou there is no such thing. in 1992 humans wanted to figure out how the brain generates its electric. We discovered it is not being generated in the brain, instead it was being shot up to the brain. We tracked it to the last chamber in your liver. Remember when they said we only have discovered 10% of the brain secrets? That's because your brain consist of 10% of your central nervous system. The rest of the 90% is the CYP2D6 sigma Receptor. The electricity was generated by a chemical reaction involving your main catalyst in your body reacting with a chemical that surrounds that sigma receptor called Fluxetien. In 1992 we discovered some that knows all and lives all. It is the Instinct brain. It has not a single difference in the one in human or the ones in plants, etc. This could only mean one thing, that you instincts house the knowledge of every living life form that has every existed. What makes you a human, rat, bug or virus, depends on what knowledge down there gets unlocked to the other sigma receptors by the Binary Code (genome code, same thing.)
To drive knowledge to you instincts requires the most powerful form of education in the world known as martial arts. Don't be fooled What your thinking of like karate and stuff are just self defense thought using martial arts. It takes for any knowledge being thought using martial arts 12-16 years 8 hours a day 5 days a week to be fully coded into your instincts. Like you dial a phone number enough you memorize it. Many people will never forget there parents number because they have dialed so much it was been driven into your instincts. The Black Belt represents that the person who has proved to his master that his teaching are driven into your instincts. This means you don't have to think about the knowledge before acting. This is why you hands are consider a deadly weapon if you have a black belt. You don't even know how not to fight deadly if you wanted to. Also why most people go to school for 12-16 years is that even U.S. government knows about this. However unlike in China, where getting a black belt is more important to them then like getting GED or what ever they have there. I think they do this to keep there ancient knowledge that was been pre-programmed into the genes and past one for `1500+ years.
Now a astrology lesson. First of all it very real how it works is the Binary code, if you don't believe astrology then I guess you live in a dream world Because astrology and how it works is exactly how CPU's work. Need more evidence? How many inventions that didn't work or ideas or lies that Humans have kept using for 7,500-10,000 years? Also under stand that Astrology is the mother of some 1500 know en sciences. Anything ending logy example Zoology, meteorology, biology, etc.
People don't believe it probably because they know it has to do with position of planets. Well ask yourself do you believe time? If do you should realize that we use the planets the same keeping track of time as for as we use them to keep track of Astrology. The thing about the planets are that on 01-19-84 at 3:30pm the planets will be in the in same position as there were on 01-19-02. Third thing you should realize is that if Astrology wasn't important in the governments eyes they would have never made the western version of it let alone make it a 4 year degree to be an astrologer. Also you really think the government records you specific date, time and location just so that you know how old you are do you?
If you like most people, your experience with astrology goes no deeper than daily horoscopes. Well these daily horoscopes are not actually astrology, they are advertisement tool to lure you towards real Astrology, which can cost several thousand even millions and take as long as 24 hours to years to do. There is no end to it. People that know how to do birth charts like me know that the more and more we put into one session that we can make a daily horoscope into paragraphs pages even 100's of pages. Many Birth Chart Business like on the Internet will go ahead and make a famous persons a free 30 page birth chart. Just to show an example how if the astrologer keeps going how much into detail that birth can be. Some really famous actors have been so impressed you the 30 page sample horoscope that they have at time paid 100's of thousands to have 100's of pages done about them.
Our calendar represents the binary code as well. That's getting into the Zodiac plain. People born on the beginning side of the calendar are more about mathematics and science vs the opposite side which about fun and people. The closer you are born to a cusp the more % that you have mathematically/scientifically minded. People born on the first cusp of the year (which I am born on the Capricorn/Aquarius cusp, which is also the 8th house cusp.) The 8th house cusp is 100% effort to balance the binary notary code counting system mathematical equation. People that are born of the last cusp of the year are 100% to unbalance the Binary code's Mathematical equation.
The bible has many things in it that the Yi-Ching book of changes had. The prediction in the bible of Armageddon, Astrology has been explaining it for 10,000 years. They called it the ending of the 8th house cusp during the 8th octave. Now that's some very advanced Astrology. I discovered this when this 2000 year's 8th house cusp came around which was just months before the GLA attack on 9/11. Very strange to because I am born 01-19-84 the 8th house cusp, that's between Capricorn and Aquarius. When we entered the 8th house cusp I for some god knows why reason, I am eating 16 Coricidid cough and cold pills every day for 5 weeks straight. These pills contain Cyanarcalate Cloraphine Maetate. Which is a type 3 fuel, also know en as gasified fuel or rocket fuel. Believe it or not rocket fuel is what decongest your airways in cold medicine. Also is used as the fuel that mixes with oxygen in super glue to burn and melt the liquid plastic into its surface. Its also the fuel that sent the Saturn 5 rocket to the moon in 4 days. It was burning threw my liver making its way to the most vital part of every living species. It is the Primary sigma receptor for the central nervous system. (sigma Receptors are drug receptors with memory banks.)
The CYP2D6 Instinct brain is the very first thing made when the sperm meets the egg. The egg kinda acts as a temp housing unit until its finished. It is know en as the CYP2D6 sigma receptor. We call it CYP2D6 because this instinct brain is found on every living life form in existence. The one in your liver has no different physical structure then the one in the nucleus of a single cell organisms, it would be that tiny dot. We name it by the first 6 parts of the species genome code. Human's CYP2D6 Sigma receptor will intake CYP class drugs and maintain a sober catalyst reaction level of 2D6. Back to Yi-Ching book of changes for one quick realization. In the oldest spiritual book in history, they said this Yin-Yang Oracle Knows all and lives all. Evan many modern religions talk about some sort of spiritual energy in the body. Well Modern man found an energy in the body that just so happens to be apart of everything, Electricity. In the 1930's The belief of electricity being the purest form of intelligence was put to the test. Some one probably realized that the only thing electricity needs to become self aware of its self is a computer to run threw. (the central Nervous system is the biological Computer and the Genome Code is the Biological Binary code.)
Looking back at what the Yin-Yang was saying about this Binary code is the code of life itself, in the 1930's we made the electricity follow this binary code and we spawned the greatest technical advance in human history. We call it Artificial Intelligence, thou there is no such thing. in 1992 humans wanted to figure out how the brain generates its electric. We discovered it is not being generated in the brain, instead it was being shot up to the brain. We tracked it to the last chamber in your liver. Remember when they said we only have discovered 10% of the brain secrets? That's because your brain consist of 10% of your central nervous system. The rest of the 90% is the CYP2D6 sigma Receptor. The electricity was generated by a chemical reaction involving your main catalyst in your body reacting with a chemical that surrounds that sigma receptor called Fluxetien. In 1992 we discovered some that knows all and lives all. It is the Instinct brain. It has not a single difference in the one in human or the ones in plants, etc. This could only mean one thing, that you instincts house the knowledge of every living life form that has every existed. What makes you a human, rat, bug or virus, depends on what knowledge down there gets unlocked to the other sigma receptors by the Binary Code (genome code, same thing.)
To drive knowledge to you instincts requires the most powerful form of education in the world known as martial arts. Don't be fooled What your thinking of like karate and stuff are just self defense thought using martial arts. It takes for any knowledge being thought using martial arts 12-16 years 8 hours a day 5 days a week to be fully coded into your instincts. Like you dial a phone number enough you memorize it. Many people will never forget there parents number because they have dialed so much it was been driven into your instincts. The Black Belt represents that the person who has proved to his master that his teaching are driven into your instincts. This means you don't have to think about the knowledge before acting. This is why you hands are consider a deadly weapon if you have a black belt. You don't even know how not to fight deadly if you wanted to. Also why most people go to school for 12-16 years is that even U.S. government knows about this. However unlike in China, where getting a black belt is more important to them then like getting GED or what ever they have there. I think they do this to keep there ancient knowledge that was been pre-programmed into the genes and past one for `1500+ years.
Now a astrology lesson. First of all it very real how it works is the Binary code, if you don't believe astrology then I guess you live in a dream world Because astrology and how it works is exactly how CPU's work. Need more evidence? How many inventions that didn't work or ideas or lies that Humans have kept using for 7,500-10,000 years? Also under stand that Astrology is the mother of some 1500 know en sciences. Anything ending logy example Zoology, meteorology, biology, etc.
People don't believe it probably because they know it has to do with position of planets. Well ask yourself do you believe time? If do you should realize that we use the planets the same keeping track of time as for as we use them to keep track of Astrology. The thing about the planets are that on 01-19-84 at 3:30pm the planets will be in the in same position as there were on 01-19-02. Third thing you should realize is that if Astrology wasn't important in the governments eyes they would have never made the western version of it let alone make it a 4 year degree to be an astrologer. Also you really think the government records you specific date, time and location just so that you know how old you are do you?
If you like most people, your experience with astrology goes no deeper than daily horoscopes. Well these daily horoscopes are not actually astrology, they are advertisement tool to lure you towards real Astrology, which can cost several thousand even millions and take as long as 24 hours to years to do. There is no end to it. People that know how to do birth charts like me know that the more and more we put into one session that we can make a daily horoscope into paragraphs pages even 100's of pages. Many Birth Chart Business like on the Internet will go ahead and make a famous persons a free 30 page birth chart. Just to show an example how if the astrologer keeps going how much into detail that birth can be. Some really famous actors have been so impressed you the 30 page sample horoscope that they have at time paid 100's of thousands to have 100's of pages done about them.
Our calendar represents the binary code as well. That's getting into the Zodiac plain. People born on the beginning side of the calendar are more about mathematics and science vs the opposite side which about fun and people. The closer you are born to a cusp the more % that you have mathematically/scientifically minded. People born on the first cusp of the year (which I am born on the Capricorn/Aquarius cusp, which is also the 8th house cusp.) The 8th house cusp is 100% effort to balance the binary notary code counting system mathematical equation. People that are born of the last cusp of the year are 100% to unbalance the Binary code's Mathematical equation.
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