Comfort: Comfort is one thing that, most women always hunger for deep down and desire longingly.
A good majority of women are scared sick of men they don't know, especially those that dont know how to smile and laugh. (Look out for the next new article "Laughing") Women want to feel that they can trust the guy they're with to the point where she can go call her girl friends and boast about him...even if it was the first date. Making her comfortable can drastically shorten the path to her heart and make her feel like she can be totally relaxed and open with you, which is what you want. So when you can get her to start revealing personal details about herself, then, you know she really feels comfortable being around you and with you.
Start Off Right: The first thing you want to do as soon you meet her, say your hello's and begin talking together is to show her respect: respect her intellegence (if she is intellegent), respect her body, and respect the dialog. What do I mean?
Lets take "her intellegence" first. You want to talk to her on the same plane, not talk down to her, not act as if you're more intellegent or smart, she will just think you're stuckup and will get what - uncomfortable. Not Good.
Now when it comes to respecting her body, every guy should know what that means, come to think of it, girls complain about it constantly. However, for those of you who still dont know, respecting a girls body means you look into her eyes and try to elicit what shes saying to you rather than stare at the personality (breasts). It also means that you check out her hips and ass, when she leaves, when she looks away etc...you want to give the impression you're different from most guys, right!! She will notice if you look into her eyes rather than into her bosom.
When you saw the term "respect the dialog" you probably wondered what I meant. That means you need to be deeply engrossed in the conversation shes having with you. Dont talk to your buddy across the way, gaze at the other girl passing, checking your watch etc. Focus all your attention on her, and look deeply into her eyes as she speak to you. She will see a different guy who is genuinely interested in her and not just for her body, and her comfort level will increase.
Sensual Moves: Something as simple as telling your woman her DRESS looks sexy on her or complimenting her unique sense of style or intelligence will make her feel as though you appreciate having her by your side. Women are very self concious, so when you reassure her that something about her is attractive or complementary, she will be drawn to you and this increases her comfort level. (Side note: You notice I didnt say she looks sexy, but the DRESS makes her look sexy)
Start going out of your way to make her feel comfortable, relaxed and open by doing little things like taking her to that place she always wanted, and again guys, you have to be careful not to give the impression that youre a supplicator, always spending your cash to WIN her over.
Make a whole conversation about her eyes....tell her how interesting and penetrating they are and the kind of feelings they engender deep inside as you look deep inside them.
Go into details and use every descriptive word you can get your brain on. Massage her feet to Artists like Mario, R. Kelly, Joe, D'Angello, Maxwell, Barry White, Baby face etc....-- they matter most after all.
Tease her: The point behind a tease to bring out the need in her for you. For one, you can kiss her on the cheeks, on the neck, all over her face for that matter, getting as close to her mouth as you must without kissing her lips. Do your best to tease her until she's absolutely begging you to give it to her. The fact that you can hold yourself back will turn her on, and the aftereffect (her reminiscing) of your ability to keep yourself away from instantly penetrating her most cherished and delicate desires, especially if she's an 8 or 9, will serve to make her want you even more.
Talk sex: Instead of always trying your best to get into her panties (which by the way turn most women off), spend some time discussing sex instead. Your fantasies, her fantasies, what you love about making love to her, your erogenous zones... anything goes. Now this "talk sex" advice is assuming that you are already banging her. If you're still trying to get into her pants, this must be done delicately. See my dynamite article on sex talk for ideas on how to get her talking sex without her thinking you're a pervert or shallow.
Kiss her for no reason: Most women love kissing. There are too many guys who just dont know how to just kiss a woman wickedly and just walk away. Most expect much more to take place right afterwards. Enjoy the kiss. Sometimes it is not possible to kiss her and start taking off all your clothes so you can get into her pants. Kiss her passionately and don't try to make love to her. Give her a sensual massage without trying to grab at her breasts. If there is one thing that i can tell you guys is, a massage works wonders. If you never do anything I suggest, if you think this material is crap, if you think all the techniques written on the pages of this site is a joke..thats fine. GOOD IS AS GOOD AS YOU KNOW GOOD TO BE.
But, dont take lightly the fact that a massage puts a woman in heaven so to speak.
I tell you this, if you can get her to agree to a sensual massage, (that means you will have to do the phone work first) and you took the time to really diligently learn how a massage is done, I put money on it that you fuck every woman you massage. The thing is, once she start to get the massage, that puts her in that relaxed comfortable mood, which is where you want her.
Then the massage multiply that 10 times! The trick is, while you're massaging her, concentrate on the massage, not on sexing her. Do the work and do it well. When you're done, make your move, dont pause between the end of the massage and the beginning of the kissing of her body, face etc.
This will not only pique her sexual curiosity, she will start wanting you to come on to her more than ever and she'll give you that very thing you always wanted, ( you pervert :) ). See new article: How to give a sensual massage
Be A Gentleman: Once she gives you the ok (tacitly or verbally) to start kissing her neck, her body, her thighs.....basically, she wants to fuck; that dosent mean you have to be a pig now.
Remember, you want the experience to be memorable, not just the sex. Dont start getting all busy too fast, ignoring the sensual nature of the evening, women hate that too by the way. Next time she won't be as interested in making love to you. You need to show yourself different from most men, show her that there is something unique and special about being with you as opposed to most men. After all, women claims to know men and stereo type us as all the same. So, when they find that you're "different" :) then they will want you all to themselves :)
When it's obvious that she's in the mood, don't tell her you're tired -- that will really make her feel like you have energy for everything but her. She wont feel special. Rather, tell her something like, "If you want me to penetrate you tonight, imagine how much more you'll want it tomorrow..." Kiss her and leave it at that....

You don’t need a guitar, rock-hard abs, or even a full head of hair to make a great impression on a woman. Follow these tips, and she’ll want to hear from you again real soon:
1. Go out with another woman. If you’re going out to a club or a bar, take a female friend or your sister with you. Women are often more amenable to talking to men who are with other women. It gives them the feeling that you actually like women, and that’s attractive. If your female friend is outgoing, see if she’ll make small talk with somebody you’d like to meet. She can say something along the lines of, “I love your necklace!” and that should do it. After a little back-and-forth, your friend can say, “Oh, how rude of me. This is my friend Andy,” and you’re in business.
2. Look women in the eye. It seems elementary, but you’d be surprised at how many guys either undress a woman with their eyes or avoid eye contact altogether. Women love it when you look them in the eye.
3. Don’t try to “buy” her. If you buy her a drink, she is obligated to say thank you and that’s it. If she accepts the drink, the polite thing for her to do would be to spend a little time talking to you, but that’s all. On the other hand, if a woman takes the drink and walks away, let her go. You wouldn’t want spend time with her, anyway. Trust me.
4. Find out her interests. Get her talking about what she’s crazy about, whether it’s David Bowie or the New York Mets. If you don’t get it, you can say something like, “You know, I’m not too familiar with Bowie. What CD would you recommend?” Or, “I’m more into football than baseball. What is it about baseball that you like?” Ask a woman her opinion, and you’ll have her eating out of your hand (we have more in common with guys than you think).
5. Listen more, talk less. Hey, I’m not suggesting that you let her do all the talking, but some guys meet a woman and then never shut up. Don’t try to impress her! Don’t brag about your GPA at Harvard, the Jag in your driveway, or the fact that you’re CEO of a tuna fish conglomerate. You’ll get precisely the kind of woman you don’t want, the one who’s only into you for your achievements and possessions, rather than for who you really are. Instead, ask questions and listen for the answers. Give your opinions. Get to know the woman. Let her get to know you.
6. Be optimistic. In other words, this is no time to discuss how oil prices are going through the roof, what a witch your ex-girlfriend was, or that your parents never gave you enough attention. If you run out of things to talk about, ask her if she’s seen the latest hit at the box office.
7. Be chaste. Do not try to go to bed with a woman right away. Sure, there’s a chance that if you go for it, she will, but if you’re hoping for a lasting relationship, you set up all sorts of weirdness if you “do it” too soon. Crazy as it sounds, if she sleeps with you, she may not respect you in the morning (you didn’t know that, did you?). She’ll figure that you get into bed with every woman you meet, which pretty much rules you out as boyfriend material. (Or she may be the type who thinks you owe her because she slept with you, which makes her really bad girlfriend material.) Save yourself undue angst and get to know a person before getting into bed with her.
8. Make a great exit. If you want to see her again, ask for her number (preface this with something casual, “Maybe we can get together some time.”). Then touch her shoulder (a little restraint is sexier here; don’t try to kiss her) and tell her you’ll be in touch. Then leave. If your friends aren’t ready to go yet, tell her you have to hang out with them. Walk away. The key here is to keep her wanting more.
9. Call her. If you said you were going to call, you can avoid looking desperate by waiting two days, but no longer. A plea on behalf of the female sex: If you’re not interested in a woman, do not—I repeat—do not say you’ll call. Say, “Nice meeting you,” and be on your way. Besides, collecting numbers to feed your ego is kind of sad.
10. Treat women as you’d have them treat you. The media have brainwashed us to believe that men and women come from different planets, but we’re all human. Some of the biggest losers in love are women who complain that all men are the same, they all want one thing, and so on. But it’s equally sad when a guy assumes all women are like his mother or his psychopathic ex-girlfriend. You’ll enjoy astonishing success with women if you understand two simple facts: We’re people. We're more like you than you think.

I’m really pleased to share with you a recent question a male friend recently sent me. It’s a topic that I think many of you may have found puzzling and I hope the responses I’ve sent to him (modified from my original email I shot off to him right away, because of course the more I pondered over it the more ideas came to mind) will be both enlightening and useful to you:

Foreplay Is Important
Also, I have to be honest and say that I believe many women see foreplay as their just desserts for having to go through intercourse in the first place. You see, there’s still a very big disconnect between men and women and their enjoyment of intercourse. I’m not saying that there aren’t women who enjoy intercourse, or that women who don’t currently can’t learn to enjoy intercourse (because I do believe that with concentrated effort by both parties it can be figured out), but I am saying that if 60-75% of women NEVER orgasm from intercourse (depending on which poll you’re looking at) we’ve got a big problem.
And no one’s really talking about it. We see Viagra and Levitra ads on television, but we don’t talk about the huge gap in orgasms during intercourse between men and women and what can be done about it. Many in the media are still putting forth the idea that women don’t need orgasms as much as men do. To that I say “so why do women still not enjoy intercourse as much as men?”


Give Women Orgasms Through Foreplay
Here’s my theory in a small nutshell: If men weren’t having orgasms from intercourse they wouldn’t want to have it that often either. If the women who currently can’t and don’t orgasm from intercourse could find a way to do so they’d probably want sex more often than men.
A big part of the problems is that women lie about having orgasms when they don’t so they won’t hurt a man’s feelings – or – if they don’t outright lie, they pretend through sounds and body movements that they’re experiencing the same sensations the man is (often women will do this simply to make the man more excited and get him to orgasm more quickly, because, well it gets really boring and painful to have long bouts of intercourse when you yourself aren’t in a state of bliss).
And another problem is that men don’t ask. Society has so focused male sexuality on men’s ability to get it up and keep it hard to “perform” that the crucial concept of needing to connect and communicate with each new partner (or even an old one) has been pushed aside and often lost.
Bust first before we start talking about communicating let’s step back a moment and look at the clues to figure out whether a woman is just selfish in general before you get in bed – because yes, that can certainly be an issue. Here are some things to look out for:


Generous People Give Generous Foreplay
· Beware of women who don’t value your time. If she’s late when you pick her up, if she cancels dates at the last minute, and if she spends time talking on her cell phone to her girlfriends while the two of you are spending time together (especially in the very beginning) she really doesn’t value your time and as such is showing she doesn’t respect you. Chances are she’s not going to be interested in being generous and giving in bed.
· Beware of women who can’t or won’t talk about sex up front. If she can’t even tell you her values (like she needs a commitment), can’t talk about safe sex, can’t let you know ahead of time her turn ons, she either is too shut down to be at a place of really opening up and sharing sexually or she isn’t interested in sex that much to begin with.
· Beware of women who’s set themselves up to be objects of desire by being overly obsessed with their appearance and keeping it perfect. Yes, women are obsessed with their appearance, and often the more beautiful and sexy in appearance often the more obsessed a woman can be – but sooner or later you have to shelve these worries if you want to enjoy your partner and yourself in bed. If a woman is all about keeping her manicure and pedicure perfect, and every hair in place, she probably isn’t going to be interested in doing more than laying back and accepting your sexual affection.


Foreplay And Good Communication Equals Great Sex
Okay, so now let’s talk about the all-important fact of communication. For great sex it needs to be done up front before you’re both hot and bothered. You’ve got to be clear with women about your wants and needs and ask her to share the same (and yes, in most cases you are going to have to be the one to do the initiating of this type of talk). We’re all too quick to get naked with strangers, but cringe at the thought of having to talk about protection (a necessity), or our likes and needs.
But here’s the deal, when you communicate from the start, before any of your clothes hit the floor, each of you moves into your sexual encounters knowing what the expectations are. Why go into anything this important blind?
Men are just as tactile and sensitive to touch as women, but many women don’t realize this because they’ve spent almost their entire adult lives trying to slow men down sexually. Basically they see men as sexual freight trains roaring towards an orgasm – who will occasionally take a pit stop for some foreplay ahead of time (forget afterwards though – sorry but this is the case for many men).


Verbal Foreplay
Talking about sex (and I don’t mean verbal foreplay, I mean honest communicating) is tough but you’ve got to do it if you want better and more rewarding sexual encounters. You’ve got to let women know what you like. I think it would be fantastic if new couples (or even just those hot for each other) could decide o take intercourse off the table in the beginning sexual encounters. Why not just have a couple evenings of foreplay for both parties to share what they enjoy, ask questions, and bring each other to an orgasm without it?
Also (though this certainly isn’t an issue in many cases, is something to consider) most women don’t compartmentalize the different aspects of their lives as well as men. Men can be quite conservative in many aspects of their lives (say politically and socially) but we wild and open sexually. But if a woman is conservative (and spiritually devout) they often haven’t put much thought into their sexuality to developed it. They’ve put that on the shelf for the “right” man (meaning a long-term boyfriend or husband) to help them discover, or they even expect the man to be able to “un-leash” it as if life were a romance novel and she the virginal heroine.


Is She Shy? Ease Into Foreplay
If a woman isn’t good at talking about sex and the wants and needs of both of you before getting naked she probably won’t be any better afterward. Others, however, just need some time to ruminate on the subject before opening up. Give a woman a fair chance, but don’t become a sexual doormat if you want an equally scintillating sex life for both parties.

There's an incredibly amazing little trick - The powerful "Hook And Shut-up" Seduction Yes, shut up! Throw the hook and shut up and WAIT for her to respond.
For example: "Excuse me... I don't know if anyone else have ever noticed this, but I noticed something really interesting about your eyes." Then SHUT UP AND WAIT for her response.
This may seem like an obvious thing to do, but a lot of guys tend to throw their hook and immediately give the answer without giving their worm time to wiggle and squirm. They'll ruin the power of the hook and say instead, "I noticed something really interesting about you... it's those boots you're wearing... I use to have a girlfriend who wore those same boots.....bla bla bla"
See, she got hooked but she was not reeled in and captured. In other words, if you start blabbing she'll figure you out real quick and just keep walking. See our Power Rules article.
Here are some more examples of the Hook and Shut-up Technique.
Her: "So what do you do?"
You: "You'll never believe it if I told you." This gets her curiosity flaming! Now SHUT UP, dead silence!!
Her: "WHAT?"
You: "Well, can you guess?" (and ofcourse with a half smile). Now you're really digging it in like a knife!
Her: "So what do you do?"
You: "I practice hypnotism." or "Maasage Therapy is my Passion". Shut up, and wait for her to respond. She'll literally be sucked in against her will.
Another variation of the Hook and Shut-up Technique is to cast your hook and then begin talking about something entirely else. This way, as you talk to her, she'll have that curiosity gnawing at the back of her mind and she won't leave you until it's been scratched! Here's an example.
Her: "So what do you do?" You: "Oh, what I do is really interesting... which reminds me of what you said earlier about liking exciting, adventuresome people and what happened to me when I was climbing Mt Fuji in Japan last year..."
You can even TWIST a hook deeper and deeper in order to touch her... except that SHE asked for it out of curiosity and you're just showing her what SHE asked for.
For example, grab her hand without asking and say to her, "Hmmm... that's really interesting." That's the first hook. Be sure to shut-up and let her respond.
Her: "What is it?"
You: "The lines in your hands... (laugh) man, I don't believe this." You're twisting that hook even deeper!
Her: "What??"
You: "Well I can tell a lot of interesting things about you by looking at your palm... and I'm not sure if I should tell you this." Twist that hook even deeper!
Her: "You read palms? What do they say?"
Proceed to trace the lines in her palms with your finger, telling her that the lines show you that deep down she's a very sexual person... that she has a side she keeps hidden from everyone else... and that it's your and her little secret. Obviously, you don't need to know how to read her palm to pull this off, just make up whatever you want!
To become a truly good in leading women into conversations with you where THEY are eager to participate, write down 15 new hooks each day for 10 days straight. Eventually you'll come to the point where you're naturally and automatically generating powerful hooks in conversations with beautiful women.

Had you ever been in the situation where your heart suddenly beats so fast, losing your ability to think, having the sudden loss for words when seeing someone you admired? At that very moment, you were like frozen in time, lost into another world, a world so wonderful, so heavenly? Hmm… How’s my description? Ha whatever, the fact is that at that very moment, you were totally defenseless. So defenseless that anything could have just hit you. An arrow? An arrow of love? Get what I mean?

Ok, let me share with you an experience of mine, a memory of my college days. Those were the days where we would always hang out in a big group, a group of both guys and girls, partying and having fun together. There was this fine evening that we gathered at a friend’s place for a little party, following by some games of Black Jack during the later evening. We were sited in one big circle in this nice and cozy room. Sitting beside me was this girl, a very beautiful girl I must admit. But well, it had never cross my mind of a relationship further than that of a friend with her. There just wasn’t any chemistry between us. Then came an ace for me! Before I realize anything, this girl beside me suddenly just came in so close on me. I know she was just been excited and curious on whether I would get my Jack. But at this very moment, her knee was on my lap, shoulder right in front of my chest. We were suddenly just so close; I could feel the beautiful fragrance from her soft silky hair. My heart was suddenly pounding so fast, gasping for breath. I was totally at loss, for that very moment, she got me! That chemistry; that frequency that had never happened between us, suddenly just flowed through me so relentlessly. Just imagine, if she were to give me a peck on my cheek out of excitement if I got a Black Jack… Ha well, that of course didn’t happen and neither did I get my jack.

Get the picture now? This is a very natural human psychological reaction. When one is in the stage experiencing that sudden increase in the heartbeat, undergoing a sudden feeling of excitement, he tends to get confused, unknowingly developing that feeling of liking for that someone beside him, especially when the person is of the opposite sex. An opposite sex of, whom he does not have any bad impression. Not to mention an opposite sex of whom he has a good impression of?

Ha! I know what’s on your mind now… Well, there’s nothing wrong, why not? Go create that perfect atmosphere; an atmosphere that would make one’s heart beats faster. An atmosphere that would make the sudden chemistry of love flowing between both of you. A roller coaster ride? A haunted house adventure? Having a good laugh together after the rides? A nice chatting session over the coffee table after a game of his favorite sports, tennis? Singing her a love song with your guitar in front of everyone?

Think about it, you plan yours. Take it slowly; build up that chemistry of love between both of you. You are on the right track…