Talking about sex: If there is one subject you should avoid its sex - don't ever start a conversation with a girl with sex, sexual innuendoes etc. Its just like with patterns - if you start a conversation with a pattern, you´ll just sound embarrassingly lame.
And if you start the conversation with sexual innoendos, you might never get a chance to continue the conversation.
Steamy topics of discussion are fine, once you've established rapport with a girl, the conversation has been going smooth, her body-language shows interest etc, she's past being comfortable with you, is already into intrigue and maybe even starting to feel a little horny:)
Once you have established rapport, introduce sex carefully using, not you, but a third party, watch her reactions, be sensitive yet bold. Use a third part like a friend or someone else... ("my friend monique once told me about a guy she'd done a one night stand with...bla bla yada yada yada..., you can safely get quite graphic using your third party and she can safely get horny because you're not talking about yourself or her:)
But once again, try not to start the conversation with sexual innuendoes, it definitely is a major turn-off for a girl.
Use personal experience or fantasy stories to get her horny. Ask her about what she has done or would like to do with other guys. You can use this even in every-day discussions by elaborating at the right time and in the right direction:)
A variation: Get her in a private place, and feed her with fantasies, increasingly sexual, in a hypnotic way, until she can't stand it anymore and will rape you:)" A journalist discussing SS, Playboy, July'98: "I had a friend in college whose success with women was mind-boggling, given his Napoleonic stature and receding hairline. I remember my college friend playfully turning every conversation with a girl, no matter where she would try to steer it, into something with sexual undertones.
He'd get her thinking about sex, and pretty soon she was thinking about having sex with him." Remember that steering the conversation into something with sexual undertones doesn't even necessarily have to mean talking explicitly about sex, see "The Discovery Channel pattern" for an example of this.
Talking about something innocent but inserting the words "penetrate", "come inside", "hard", "surrender" into the conversation might do the trick just as well. Whether you come out with it or you're more cautious, the best advice is just to experiment and develop an intuition with it.
An example of a combination of a cold approach, quoting, stacking realities and using fantasy stories. Example: "I know this guy named Vincent, he was telling me about a woman friend of his. She said that she was standing by herself in a bar one time when this guy walks up to her, looks her dead in the eyes and said, "I would like to fuck you. Would you like to fuck me?" and then just stands there.
She said she nearly dropped her drink, but then she started thinking about it and began feeling that heat building up in her body. You know how you feel when you start to get really aroused? All wet and excited? She didn't miss a beat and started playing right back at him. She said, "I'd want you to go down on me first...bla bla bla :)"
Anyway use your exquisite language skills to tell her exactly what you'd like to do to her & have Vincent's friend tell it to her.
An example of a line to use in a conversation. "When was the last time you had an orgasm? I really think you need to find a guy right now... and let him bend you over the bathroom sink and let him have his way with you."
Most women love the romantic and emotional stuff, while others are not necessarily interested in a relationship of any kind but would really enjoy a good session of hot and wild session of unforgettable sex, no strings attached.
So how do you begin to talk about that kind of low down and dirty sex? Well, if you see that she doesn't respond to relationship type conversation, move away from it. Offer a different perspective. You can either describe other couples that you know that are not communicating like they should and how much of a hassle it can be to be in a loveless relationship and so on.
So what's the alternative? It doesn't have to be your own opinion but you can mention how much of a hassle free a purely sexual experience can be between two horny people.
They can share all their fantasies without fear of being judged by a loved one and threatened with a break-up, they are free to experience many things that might be viewed as taboo by people in a serious relationship etc. You can talk about how easy it is to arrange something and see it through when it comes to nothing but physical pleasure.
You can say how both men and women can experiment with their sexual urges and curiousities without any relationship insecurities or jealousy. You can give examples of other couples that you know where the woman always fantasized about being with another woman but the husband was scared that she might leave him for a lesbian.
In a purely physical relationship, it's all about what makes us feel good, it's all about exploring fantasies and feeling comfortable with who we are as we are.
If you've hit the target, she will agree with you and feel a connection between the two of you because she will feel you are both the same.
At that point you can ask her about her favorite position or her favourite fantasies that she was never able to talk about or act on in a closed and conventional relationship. You can tell her about some mild fantasies of yours and direct the conversation to how wonderful it feels to be able to express yourselves in this way.
You can even mention how talking about this kind of stuff is making you hot right there and then probe to see if she feels the same way. You can joke about the two of you trying to seduce another person together for a possible threesome and more depending on the fantasies she already told you about. If everything clicks you will know because if you don't go for the close, she will :)
Seducing For Threesomes
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:05 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
Threesomes: This is one of the most sought after fantasies that and have been the ultimate pleasure and fond memory for many. Both men and women daydream about how and what it would be like to be pleasured by at least two people at the same time. Yet few men knows the tricks of the techniques to use to snag their threesome and fulfill their secret fantasy. If you want to bang not one, but two girls in one night, at the same time, then I suggest you pay attention to this article. Before long you wont have to wish you could.
This is a Team Seduction Strategy. This means that you have already a sexual partner and have already agreed and discussed the possibilities of having a threesome.
Ok here is step by step what you need to do:
Tidy up your bedroom, and your whole house, before you leave just in case. Burn some incense to get rid of odors if necessary. If this is not possible (eg. you live with your mother) then depending on your budget get a nice hotel room.
Have ample supply of wine, liquor, champange, whatever.
Make sure you have at least 6-8 towels, just so you wont run out in the middle of the action.
Have handy at least one sex toy to enhance and increase your pleasure together.
Before you leave your house, put on some seductive romantic music to set the mood as soon as you return. And program your stereo to repeat the CD.
Wear nice and sexy seductive underwear and lingerie.
You must be nicely dressed, smell good and dont forget to smile.
So How Do You Plot Your Threesome? First thing you do when you leave the house, is pickup your female partner and decide on the venue. You want to chose somewhere nice and trendy, maybe a trendy bar or some place similar. Try to avoid a places where people know you well. Why be given that advice? More than likely, if this threesome happens with a friend or someone you know in the area, some jealousy and resentment will occur. You also want to get there early so as to get a nice table where you can overlook the whole bar. Remember your goal is to look for prospective girls, so if you sit at the bar itself you will be only facing the bar tender, and that will definitely decrease you chance of spotting the best chicks!
Your eyes must be those of eagles. What you're looking for is a couple of single girls sitting together. These girls should be, preferably, in their early or mid thirties. Women, when they start to reach that mature age are when they are at their horniest! Besides, its highly likely they are in the bar to flirt or even looking to be "picked up" or to "pick someone up." This will obviously increase your odds!
Usually you'll find these girls close to the bar, since that's where most guys go to purchase drinks. If you don't see any girls there just look around or wait for them to arrive. Unless ofcourse, you chose a bar where all the low life loser guys go that cant lay any women.
After you spot your threesome preys you must ofcourse approcah them. Dont bring your female partner with you. Shes just going to sit and watch as you stike up a conversation so you can at least develop some rapport with the girls.
The Approach: Some guys are good at this some are not, so let me give some tips.
1) You MUST smile.
2) Confidence is also a must.
3) You must make the girls feel comfortable to be around you.
This is important because if they feel uncomfortable they will just leave, which will ruin your chance of having your threesome.
Here is one way to make your approach:
You: What are you girls drinking (with a big smile)?
Girls: Wine, vodca, whatever (dosent matter, all you want to do is get the conversation going)
You: Should I order the same for my girl? (Then point at your female companion)
This will establish that you are obviously accompanied so they they wont have to feel you're hitting on them. This will substantially lower their defenses! At this point, your main aim is to develop rapport with the girls, crack silly jokes and get them more comfortable and attracted to your company. Then as soon as you realize they are enjoying your jokes, feeling really happy, laughing and having a good time you you want to "pull the carrot away". Just apruptly say "It was REALLY nice meeting you girls, have a great time tonight" and return to where your female companion is. Now they have to be thinking and talking to themselves..."Wow...that was a really nice guy...he's so funny!
You're not done yet. Keep reading, this is all part of the game guys. You want to wait about 3 to 5 minutes and then the two of you walk up and approach the two girls again. Introduce your partner to them and from there let her take over. It is the goal of both of you to establish a nice friendly rapport going full of laughs and fun and great conversations. Something women are good at anyway!
The first step: Once a good rapport is established it is now time to do what we call some "fishing". This sequence is very important, so follow it carefully. Turn to the girls with a most genuine voice and say: "Do you guys come here often?"
If they say yes, then you want to follow that up with; "...so you are familiar with how it works here right?"
If they answer no then say: "Do you know what night is tonight?"
Most likely they will say: "How do you mean?" Or "No What night is tonight?"
Now follow up with: "Well, every day there's a different thing happening here isn't it?"
Again most likely you will get a blank stare...
Then follow with: "Well, we do not come here often but we learned on the internet that Tuesdays (Or whatever the day may be) it is a night for couples....that's exactly why we came here today!"
At this point they will be still a bit confused, so you might need to elaborate.
"We heard that tonight this is the spot where swingers go for a drink to meet other couples?"
We usually get a grin or a hysterical laugh of disbelief...
So we ask: "Is this true?" or " Did you know that?"
Do you see how we transition the whole conversation to a new topic without abruptly changing topics? Take note.
"So, you didn’t know about this?" we insist...
They will still be surprised, however you have already established that you guys are a couple and are ready to play!
They might be unaware but you planting those threesome seeds deep inside their unconcious will most likely result in hot steamy sex tonight!
Your next step is to keep the "fishing" strategies going and ratchet up the "reeling in" process. You have already established that they're cool with the swingers subject and its most likely they are game. Now is the time to gradually switch from innocent questions to more intimate and sexually oriented questions. See my sex talk article. Everything geared to the topic of swingers, couple swapping and bisexuality should be the topic at hand, and ofcourse this is appropriate since this is swingers night right :). Whatever you have to do to keep the fire burning, make sure you do it.
Once both you and your partner get a sense that the time is right to be direct, either one of you would say something like:
"Have you girls ever done something with another woman?"
The most common response I get is...they will laugh and then they will either admit they have or they will say no we have not. Guys, I hope you're paying attention and realize that if you have managed to get them to this point you can now reel them in alot faster. What do I mean? Now you can move on to more specific questions: "How?", "When?", "What Happened?" Make it fun, laugh liberally and keep them talking about it, because the more they reflect on it and talk freely and openly about it, the more relaxed they will feel together with you and most important, the more they will begin to realize how much fun and excitement it was, or can be. In the event that they will respond negatively you want to reframe their thoughts to think about the experience in a good way. So you would come back with something like:
"Under the right circumstances, I'm sure you wouldnt mind considering it, (then continue talking) and if its done in a more comfortable setting, I'm sure you WILL feel alot more comfortable relaxed and open!" They might shake their heads giving you a maybe, sort of answer...That is enough. What that means is if you play your cards right, you're in.
(Please Pay attention because the next step is going to be a very important step…)
Before you proceed to this step, be certain that the four of you are still in rapport and that the atmosphere is already of mutual respect and trust.
You say: "It's Weird how we just started talking so openly and freely about this naughty subject...my partner (girl, wife whatever) here saw you and she told me that you girls were kind of cute and as we thought tonight was swingers night she send me to check you out...:)
Then follow with: "Do you girls find her cute?" At this point we normally get a "yes", since we have already plantedthe seeds of curiosity.
After this moment the conversation must be mostly on female bisexuality. Take note of how the conversation goes at this juncture so you can reel them in a bit more. As soon as you see that the ladies are on their toes with curiosity you lead them into the next phase.
The Third Milestone in this threesome seduction strategy is "THE KISS". Your goal here is to get either of the girls to kiss your partner. The ones I find work the best for me are the following: The truth or dare approach. In the same rapport, trusting, comfortable mode, dare the girls to kiss your parther. If you're successful, which wont be hard considering everyone is on the same page, there's going to be lot's of pussy to go around!
After this moment its all downhill! Before asking the girls to join you for a drink at home, ask the bar tender for a round of "sexy drinks" , below I have included a few examples.
Creamy Bush: 1 1/2 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1 1/2 oz Bush mills Irish Whiskey,
Sit On My Face: 1/3 oz Kahlua Coffee Liqueur, 1/3 oz Frangelico Hazelnut Liqueur, 1/3 oz Bailey's Irish Cream,
Buttery Nipple: 1 oz DeKuyper Butter shots, 1/2 oz Irish Cream,
Cunnilingus: 1/4 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1/4 oz Peach Schnapps, 1/2 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 1/2 oz Whipped Cream,
Tight Snatch: Ice, 1 shot Absolut Vodka, 1 shot Peach Schnapps, 6 oz Orange Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
Get Laid: 3/4 oz Raspberry Liqueur, 1 oz Vodka, 6 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
If you notice I only list drinks that are female related. This is obviously because it keeps the conversation going to the direction we want to take it!
After we finish our drinks, excuse youself to the bathroom and secretly pays for all drinks. In the mean while, your partner invites the girls to come home for a drink. When you get back your partner will simply suggest to you "why don't we continue our conversation together at home, I have already invited the girls over", and you simply say: "Good idea!"
When the girls ask for their bill the bar tender tells them that its already taken care of they will thank you very sweetly, bonding you together even more.
Taking The Girls Home is a very important step that should also be systematically planned. Your strategy is to have have all the girls, including your partner, follow you home together in one car, whilest you lead in another automobile. The most painful mistake I see some guys make is letting the girls drive back on their own without either them or their partner in the car with them.
The last thing you want is for them to get cold feet and a sudden mood change. That's why you need to be there with them keeping that "girlie" talk flowing. Once youre home, break out the wine glasses, get the music going, and you know the rest. Happy Seducing!
This is a Team Seduction Strategy. This means that you have already a sexual partner and have already agreed and discussed the possibilities of having a threesome.
Ok here is step by step what you need to do:
Tidy up your bedroom, and your whole house, before you leave just in case. Burn some incense to get rid of odors if necessary. If this is not possible (eg. you live with your mother) then depending on your budget get a nice hotel room.
Have ample supply of wine, liquor, champange, whatever.
Make sure you have at least 6-8 towels, just so you wont run out in the middle of the action.
Have handy at least one sex toy to enhance and increase your pleasure together.
Before you leave your house, put on some seductive romantic music to set the mood as soon as you return. And program your stereo to repeat the CD.
Wear nice and sexy seductive underwear and lingerie.
You must be nicely dressed, smell good and dont forget to smile.
So How Do You Plot Your Threesome? First thing you do when you leave the house, is pickup your female partner and decide on the venue. You want to chose somewhere nice and trendy, maybe a trendy bar or some place similar. Try to avoid a places where people know you well. Why be given that advice? More than likely, if this threesome happens with a friend or someone you know in the area, some jealousy and resentment will occur. You also want to get there early so as to get a nice table where you can overlook the whole bar. Remember your goal is to look for prospective girls, so if you sit at the bar itself you will be only facing the bar tender, and that will definitely decrease you chance of spotting the best chicks!
Your eyes must be those of eagles. What you're looking for is a couple of single girls sitting together. These girls should be, preferably, in their early or mid thirties. Women, when they start to reach that mature age are when they are at their horniest! Besides, its highly likely they are in the bar to flirt or even looking to be "picked up" or to "pick someone up." This will obviously increase your odds!
Usually you'll find these girls close to the bar, since that's where most guys go to purchase drinks. If you don't see any girls there just look around or wait for them to arrive. Unless ofcourse, you chose a bar where all the low life loser guys go that cant lay any women.
After you spot your threesome preys you must ofcourse approcah them. Dont bring your female partner with you. Shes just going to sit and watch as you stike up a conversation so you can at least develop some rapport with the girls.
The Approach: Some guys are good at this some are not, so let me give some tips.
1) You MUST smile.
2) Confidence is also a must.
3) You must make the girls feel comfortable to be around you.
This is important because if they feel uncomfortable they will just leave, which will ruin your chance of having your threesome.
Here is one way to make your approach:
You: What are you girls drinking (with a big smile)?
Girls: Wine, vodca, whatever (dosent matter, all you want to do is get the conversation going)
You: Should I order the same for my girl? (Then point at your female companion)
This will establish that you are obviously accompanied so they they wont have to feel you're hitting on them. This will substantially lower their defenses! At this point, your main aim is to develop rapport with the girls, crack silly jokes and get them more comfortable and attracted to your company. Then as soon as you realize they are enjoying your jokes, feeling really happy, laughing and having a good time you you want to "pull the carrot away". Just apruptly say "It was REALLY nice meeting you girls, have a great time tonight" and return to where your female companion is. Now they have to be thinking and talking to themselves..."Wow...that was a really nice guy...he's so funny!
You're not done yet. Keep reading, this is all part of the game guys. You want to wait about 3 to 5 minutes and then the two of you walk up and approach the two girls again. Introduce your partner to them and from there let her take over. It is the goal of both of you to establish a nice friendly rapport going full of laughs and fun and great conversations. Something women are good at anyway!
The first step: Once a good rapport is established it is now time to do what we call some "fishing". This sequence is very important, so follow it carefully. Turn to the girls with a most genuine voice and say: "Do you guys come here often?"
If they say yes, then you want to follow that up with; "...so you are familiar with how it works here right?"
If they answer no then say: "Do you know what night is tonight?"
Most likely they will say: "How do you mean?" Or "No What night is tonight?"
Now follow up with: "Well, every day there's a different thing happening here isn't it?"
Again most likely you will get a blank stare...
Then follow with: "Well, we do not come here often but we learned on the internet that Tuesdays (Or whatever the day may be) it is a night for couples....that's exactly why we came here today!"
At this point they will be still a bit confused, so you might need to elaborate.
"We heard that tonight this is the spot where swingers go for a drink to meet other couples?"
We usually get a grin or a hysterical laugh of disbelief...
So we ask: "Is this true?" or " Did you know that?"
Do you see how we transition the whole conversation to a new topic without abruptly changing topics? Take note.
"So, you didn’t know about this?" we insist...
They will still be surprised, however you have already established that you guys are a couple and are ready to play!
They might be unaware but you planting those threesome seeds deep inside their unconcious will most likely result in hot steamy sex tonight!
Your next step is to keep the "fishing" strategies going and ratchet up the "reeling in" process. You have already established that they're cool with the swingers subject and its most likely they are game. Now is the time to gradually switch from innocent questions to more intimate and sexually oriented questions. See my sex talk article. Everything geared to the topic of swingers, couple swapping and bisexuality should be the topic at hand, and ofcourse this is appropriate since this is swingers night right :). Whatever you have to do to keep the fire burning, make sure you do it.
Once both you and your partner get a sense that the time is right to be direct, either one of you would say something like:
"Have you girls ever done something with another woman?"
The most common response I get is...they will laugh and then they will either admit they have or they will say no we have not. Guys, I hope you're paying attention and realize that if you have managed to get them to this point you can now reel them in alot faster. What do I mean? Now you can move on to more specific questions: "How?", "When?", "What Happened?" Make it fun, laugh liberally and keep them talking about it, because the more they reflect on it and talk freely and openly about it, the more relaxed they will feel together with you and most important, the more they will begin to realize how much fun and excitement it was, or can be. In the event that they will respond negatively you want to reframe their thoughts to think about the experience in a good way. So you would come back with something like:
"Under the right circumstances, I'm sure you wouldnt mind considering it, (then continue talking) and if its done in a more comfortable setting, I'm sure you WILL feel alot more comfortable relaxed and open!" They might shake their heads giving you a maybe, sort of answer...That is enough. What that means is if you play your cards right, you're in.
(Please Pay attention because the next step is going to be a very important step…)
Before you proceed to this step, be certain that the four of you are still in rapport and that the atmosphere is already of mutual respect and trust.
You say: "It's Weird how we just started talking so openly and freely about this naughty subject...my partner (girl, wife whatever) here saw you and she told me that you girls were kind of cute and as we thought tonight was swingers night she send me to check you out...:)
Then follow with: "Do you girls find her cute?" At this point we normally get a "yes", since we have already plantedthe seeds of curiosity.
After this moment the conversation must be mostly on female bisexuality. Take note of how the conversation goes at this juncture so you can reel them in a bit more. As soon as you see that the ladies are on their toes with curiosity you lead them into the next phase.
The Third Milestone in this threesome seduction strategy is "THE KISS". Your goal here is to get either of the girls to kiss your partner. The ones I find work the best for me are the following: The truth or dare approach. In the same rapport, trusting, comfortable mode, dare the girls to kiss your parther. If you're successful, which wont be hard considering everyone is on the same page, there's going to be lot's of pussy to go around!
After this moment its all downhill! Before asking the girls to join you for a drink at home, ask the bar tender for a round of "sexy drinks" , below I have included a few examples.
Creamy Bush: 1 1/2 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1 1/2 oz Bush mills Irish Whiskey,
Sit On My Face: 1/3 oz Kahlua Coffee Liqueur, 1/3 oz Frangelico Hazelnut Liqueur, 1/3 oz Bailey's Irish Cream,
Buttery Nipple: 1 oz DeKuyper Butter shots, 1/2 oz Irish Cream,
Cunnilingus: 1/4 oz Bailey's Irish Cream, 1/4 oz Peach Schnapps, 1/2 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 1/2 oz Whipped Cream,
Tight Snatch: Ice, 1 shot Absolut Vodka, 1 shot Peach Schnapps, 6 oz Orange Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
Get Laid: 3/4 oz Raspberry Liqueur, 1 oz Vodka, 6 oz Pineapple Juice, 1 splash Cranberry Juice,
If you notice I only list drinks that are female related. This is obviously because it keeps the conversation going to the direction we want to take it!
After we finish our drinks, excuse youself to the bathroom and secretly pays for all drinks. In the mean while, your partner invites the girls to come home for a drink. When you get back your partner will simply suggest to you "why don't we continue our conversation together at home, I have already invited the girls over", and you simply say: "Good idea!"
When the girls ask for their bill the bar tender tells them that its already taken care of they will thank you very sweetly, bonding you together even more.
Taking The Girls Home is a very important step that should also be systematically planned. Your strategy is to have have all the girls, including your partner, follow you home together in one car, whilest you lead in another automobile. The most painful mistake I see some guys make is letting the girls drive back on their own without either them or their partner in the car with them.
The last thing you want is for them to get cold feet and a sudden mood change. That's why you need to be there with them keeping that "girlie" talk flowing. Once youre home, break out the wine glasses, get the music going, and you know the rest. Happy Seducing!
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Program Your Mind
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:04 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
How Do You Program Your Mind? One of the most important and useful aspects of using NLP to master yourself and fine tune your technique is in the art of creating resource states. Resource states are states of mind that can be used to positively re-program your past, present and future.
One of the classic uses in NLP is for programming a state of confidence into your future. Most guys have had this experience of profound sense of confidence at some stage in their life. Maybe it only lasted a few seconds and was many years ago. This is fine. The beauty of this technique is that it allows one to capture that wonderful resource, create more of that state, and place it exactly where one desires!
The amount of different useful states of mind is vast and the fact is we hardly ever tap into these hidden resources. Some of the more useful resource states include; Confidence, Creativity, Relaxation, Playfulness, Concentration, Perseverance, Ecstasy.... etc etc.
Here's a couple of examples to clarify what I'm getting at:
Have you ever read a book that was really deep, like the book "THINK", that made you feel really inspired, fired up and motivated? In what capacity could you use that? How about programming that state into your workplace, your hobby, your sales pitch, dating techniques?
Now think - can you remember or imagine a time being in nature, surrounded by mellow shades of green, spotted shadows with gleams of sun, with soft sounds of birds in the distance and a close by stream. Where could you use that state of tranquility? Can you program your mind to recall that state in the future? Yes you can. Just like how we use binding to bind a prospects thoughts together and using kino to re-call this feeling, we can program ourselves with the same results.
And now to the actual technique. Treat yourself to 10 - 15 minutes to do this the first time. You will begin to notice that the more you PRACTICE the technique more you'll be able to achieve good results in less time....
NLP Technique: Program A Resource State Into A Future Situation
Think of a resource state you want more of in a future situation. (Joy, Ecstasy, Fun, Creativity, Confidence, Compassion etc.)
Relax down into a trance. (Use whatever way you want to go into a relaxed state. e.g. Deep breathing, self-hypnosis, meditation techniques.) The more relaxed you become the more powerful the rest of the exercise will be, so enjoy becoming more relaxed.
Remember a time you felt the chosen resource state strongly. Or imagine a situation in the future that would allow you to feel that resource state.
Fully internalize the experience and see what you saw at the time, hear what you heard and feel those feelings. Make the colors brighter, turn up the sounds and amplify the feelings. Anchor this feeling by squeezing your finger and thumb together.
Notice where those feelings are in your body. What color would you give these feelings? Imagine spreading that color/feeling up and down your body, amplifying the feelings. When the feelings are amplified, again squeeze your finger and thumb together to capture that feeling.
Break state. (Look around the room or remember your phone number etc.)
Test Anchor: Squeeze your finger and thumb together. If you've done the above steps correctly you should feel those feelings coming back.
Congratulate yourself (This is very powerful as it re-enforces the idea in your mind that you can do these exercises and they will become even easier to do!)
Here's a great tip they don't often tell you in NLP books. You can "double-up" and make a 'Super Resource State'? Go back to step one and stack another state on top of the first one. Squeeze the same finger and thumb together (Example: Confidence AND Relaxation). Great! Now you have programmed your mind to recall not only your confidence, but now you can espress your "confidence" and also be "relaxed" simultaneously.
Now think of a specific situation where this supreme resource state would be useful.
Imagine what you will see/hear just before you want this state to kick in. Example: Her profile as you approach her, her eyes as she turns to look at you, how she responds etc etc.
Now fire the resource anchor by squeezing your finger and thumb together whilst imagining being in the chosen situation, unfolding as you desire it too.
Wonderful! Now you can look forward to that future situation with alot more anticipation and excitement.
The technique you just learned can be used in tons of situations with the greatest outcome.
Each time you practice the technique with another resource state/situation you will condition your mind to make the procedure even easier next time...
Overcomming Your Fear: Imagine discovering a way to get rid of your fears in a quick and painless manner. In fact it can even become fun!
Did you know only two of all the fears you have are innate: The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Most of your fears were learned in early childhood and then in later life under stressful conditions.
So just how do fearful feelings occur then? Consider this: Fred wants very badly to talk to the hot sexy bunny that always occupy the seat the the reception desk for months. Finally he muster up some courage from his losy jelly back self to ask. Needles to say, he got cold feet and as he starts the walk down the corridor he starts to feel certain sensations (wimp sensations) in his body. Weird stomach feelings.
His breathing is constricted. Slight sweating in his palm and on parts of his body. His vision is effected.
Fred decides to turn back and then sits down feeling slightly annoyed with himself (classic jelly-back)
His body started producing 'fear chemicals.' What happened?
Well it was because he defied his Dad one time when he was four. Let's explore those forgotten memories....”
NO! NO! NO! Hell no! Let's do something alot smarter and definitely more fun.
Hey Fred come over here I want to show you something really cool! O' come on, pick your lip up.
You know how before you got up to go ask that girl out, you felt OK right? So between the time you got up and started walking something happened. Something triggered those feelings in you. Here's what happened: You either made a picture in your head or talked to yourself in a way that created those fearful (jelly-back) sensations and that happened at an unconscious level out of your awareness.
OK Blake that might be true but so what, what's your point?”
Well the point is by changing the internal sounds, pictures and voices in your head you can begin to gain control of your emotions.
Fair enough but how can I do that so when I'm in a similar situation I automatically make useful pictures, sounds and voices in my head so I remain in a resourceful state?
Good question, here's just one way you can achieve the results you want using a simple and powerful tool from the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Soothing Movie Music:
Think of a situation where you feel fear.
Dissociate: See yourself in the situation like you would a movie with you in it.
Imagine running the memory from the END of the fearful situation, BACKWARDS to the START. Do this very fast in less then 1 second!
Think of some music that makes you feel the opposite of fear. For example soothing classical music makes you feel relaxed. Perhaps certain rock or dance music makes you feel energised/courageous etc.
Now hear the music, nice and loud, inside your mind whilst looking at yourself going through the situation from START to END.
Break state. Now think of the situation you choose in Step 1 and notice how your fearful feelings have diminished.
What will you see or hear just before you want this new feeling to set in?
One of the classic uses in NLP is for programming a state of confidence into your future. Most guys have had this experience of profound sense of confidence at some stage in their life. Maybe it only lasted a few seconds and was many years ago. This is fine. The beauty of this technique is that it allows one to capture that wonderful resource, create more of that state, and place it exactly where one desires!
The amount of different useful states of mind is vast and the fact is we hardly ever tap into these hidden resources. Some of the more useful resource states include; Confidence, Creativity, Relaxation, Playfulness, Concentration, Perseverance, Ecstasy.... etc etc.
Here's a couple of examples to clarify what I'm getting at:
Have you ever read a book that was really deep, like the book "THINK", that made you feel really inspired, fired up and motivated? In what capacity could you use that? How about programming that state into your workplace, your hobby, your sales pitch, dating techniques?
Now think - can you remember or imagine a time being in nature, surrounded by mellow shades of green, spotted shadows with gleams of sun, with soft sounds of birds in the distance and a close by stream. Where could you use that state of tranquility? Can you program your mind to recall that state in the future? Yes you can. Just like how we use binding to bind a prospects thoughts together and using kino to re-call this feeling, we can program ourselves with the same results.
And now to the actual technique. Treat yourself to 10 - 15 minutes to do this the first time. You will begin to notice that the more you PRACTICE the technique more you'll be able to achieve good results in less time....
NLP Technique: Program A Resource State Into A Future Situation
Think of a resource state you want more of in a future situation. (Joy, Ecstasy, Fun, Creativity, Confidence, Compassion etc.)
Relax down into a trance. (Use whatever way you want to go into a relaxed state. e.g. Deep breathing, self-hypnosis, meditation techniques.) The more relaxed you become the more powerful the rest of the exercise will be, so enjoy becoming more relaxed.
Remember a time you felt the chosen resource state strongly. Or imagine a situation in the future that would allow you to feel that resource state.
Fully internalize the experience and see what you saw at the time, hear what you heard and feel those feelings. Make the colors brighter, turn up the sounds and amplify the feelings. Anchor this feeling by squeezing your finger and thumb together.
Notice where those feelings are in your body. What color would you give these feelings? Imagine spreading that color/feeling up and down your body, amplifying the feelings. When the feelings are amplified, again squeeze your finger and thumb together to capture that feeling.
Break state. (Look around the room or remember your phone number etc.)
Test Anchor: Squeeze your finger and thumb together. If you've done the above steps correctly you should feel those feelings coming back.
Congratulate yourself (This is very powerful as it re-enforces the idea in your mind that you can do these exercises and they will become even easier to do!)
Here's a great tip they don't often tell you in NLP books. You can "double-up" and make a 'Super Resource State'? Go back to step one and stack another state on top of the first one. Squeeze the same finger and thumb together (Example: Confidence AND Relaxation). Great! Now you have programmed your mind to recall not only your confidence, but now you can espress your "confidence" and also be "relaxed" simultaneously.
Now think of a specific situation where this supreme resource state would be useful.
Imagine what you will see/hear just before you want this state to kick in. Example: Her profile as you approach her, her eyes as she turns to look at you, how she responds etc etc.
Now fire the resource anchor by squeezing your finger and thumb together whilst imagining being in the chosen situation, unfolding as you desire it too.
Wonderful! Now you can look forward to that future situation with alot more anticipation and excitement.
The technique you just learned can be used in tons of situations with the greatest outcome.
Each time you practice the technique with another resource state/situation you will condition your mind to make the procedure even easier next time...
Overcomming Your Fear: Imagine discovering a way to get rid of your fears in a quick and painless manner. In fact it can even become fun!
Did you know only two of all the fears you have are innate: The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Most of your fears were learned in early childhood and then in later life under stressful conditions.
So just how do fearful feelings occur then? Consider this: Fred wants very badly to talk to the hot sexy bunny that always occupy the seat the the reception desk for months. Finally he muster up some courage from his losy jelly back self to ask. Needles to say, he got cold feet and as he starts the walk down the corridor he starts to feel certain sensations (wimp sensations) in his body. Weird stomach feelings.
His breathing is constricted. Slight sweating in his palm and on parts of his body. His vision is effected.
Fred decides to turn back and then sits down feeling slightly annoyed with himself (classic jelly-back)
His body started producing 'fear chemicals.' What happened?
Well it was because he defied his Dad one time when he was four. Let's explore those forgotten memories....”
NO! NO! NO! Hell no! Let's do something alot smarter and definitely more fun.
Hey Fred come over here I want to show you something really cool! O' come on, pick your lip up.
You know how before you got up to go ask that girl out, you felt OK right? So between the time you got up and started walking something happened. Something triggered those feelings in you. Here's what happened: You either made a picture in your head or talked to yourself in a way that created those fearful (jelly-back) sensations and that happened at an unconscious level out of your awareness.
OK Blake that might be true but so what, what's your point?”
Well the point is by changing the internal sounds, pictures and voices in your head you can begin to gain control of your emotions.
Fair enough but how can I do that so when I'm in a similar situation I automatically make useful pictures, sounds and voices in my head so I remain in a resourceful state?
Good question, here's just one way you can achieve the results you want using a simple and powerful tool from the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Soothing Movie Music:
Think of a situation where you feel fear.
Dissociate: See yourself in the situation like you would a movie with you in it.
Imagine running the memory from the END of the fearful situation, BACKWARDS to the START. Do this very fast in less then 1 second!
Think of some music that makes you feel the opposite of fear. For example soothing classical music makes you feel relaxed. Perhaps certain rock or dance music makes you feel energised/courageous etc.
Now hear the music, nice and loud, inside your mind whilst looking at yourself going through the situation from START to END.
Break state. Now think of the situation you choose in Step 1 and notice how your fearful feelings have diminished.
What will you see or hear just before you want this new feeling to set in?
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Presupposition (Loaded Sentences)
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:04 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
Pre-suppositions or loaded sentences, are used subconciously by men and women the world over, yet has little or no effect or concequence. In order to be effective, presupposition must be used deliberately and methodically, with a specific outcome in mind. These "mind tricks" as they are sometimes dubbed, drastically make it easier for the girl to realize and make a decision as to what it is that she really wants (and then go with the flow:).
They shift attention from something (seemingly) unimportant as if it is a given or it has somehow already been agreed upon to the (seemingly) important as it needs yet to be decided upon.
In order to understand the "loaded" question and answer it ("would you like tea or coffee?") she has to accept the presupposition that accompanies the question ("before we go to my place":).
So for example, lets say you want to invite the girl over to your place. You definitely cannot say "soooo...do you want to go to my place?"....you're setting youself up for a negative response. Women love that! There is too much power put into her hands at this point! Now the has the power to say "YES" or "NO"! This is not what you want....so here is how you say it...."Sooo....would you like (something to drink) before (I take you home)?"
"Would you like (another coke / whiskey) before (I take you home / we go to your place / we go to my place)?"
If she answers "YES" to your question, which she will, subconciously, you're programming her subconcious to feel comfortable going to your house. Her subconcious is now getting used to the idea that, yes, I agreed to go to his place, and will find the rationale to justify going.
Presuppositions can also be used in ordinary sentences to help her decide… or rather, decide for her:) If you'd like to take a shower together with her after spending the night together, instead of asking "Wanna take a shower? How about something like "I'll ready the shower for us:)".
Here are a few more examples of how a simple sentence can help a girl sway towards the right decision:) or simply not leave her with much choice:) Use these to construct your own "decision-swayers".
Binds of comparable alternatives
"So do you want to meet together again tomorrow over lunch, or over coffee? (keep talking!) e.g. Either way, the most important thing is that we can carry on this conversation. Sound good to you?"
"So do you want to dance now, or wait until the next slow? (keep talking!) You're looking as if YOU CAN'T WAIT to dance now. Let's go!?" Cause & Effect
"You won't get the most out of the music just thinking about it, since the best way to experience it is to dance together."
"As you sit there, you can feel the pulsating music deep within you and you know you have to dance before the night is out. Come:)"
Resistance-breaking patterns
Two mini-patterns using time distortion, binds of comparable alternatives and humour to break a girl's resistance to getting together with you:
"Won't it be great AFTER we've gone out and laughed and felt really comfortable together? Then you can just look back at it all, smile that smile of satisfaction, and think to yourself: that was one of the best times, I've ever had!"
" I don't know if, when we go out, whether it will be a wonderfully fun adventure or just an incredibly enjoyable good time, but it sure will feel great to laugh and have fun that much, won't it?"
An example of using a combination of the above techniques and thought binding:
You: You know, I can tell you are a woman with great taste!
Her: How do you know?
You: Because you laugh at what I say. And the more you laugh, the more you'll recognise just how attractive you find that you want to laugh some more, and the more you'll look forward to being with someone just like that / the more you'll LOOK FORWARD to having the best time when we go out together.
Note: The presup above is used rarely in the NLP community however, it is very powerful since all the presuppositions are stacked together. This increases their weight and effectiveness. In this case 3 such presuppositions.
Her: (laughter)
You: See...just like that:)
You: Seriously...haven't you ever met someone, and you just knew you were going to like this person (point to yourself), cause you could just STOP, and IMAGINE BEING TOGETHER, feeling totally comfortable, and absolutely connected, for all the right reasons?
Her: Yeah
You: Well, see? So, as you think about it like that..." ...then just keep chatting, transition to IC pattern, whatever.
After Eliciting Her Values: After finding out what the girl likes to do, talk with the assumption that you're going to do it together: "Well, when we're doing [this and this] together, it would be nice if [something and something]"
They shift attention from something (seemingly) unimportant as if it is a given or it has somehow already been agreed upon to the (seemingly) important as it needs yet to be decided upon.
In order to understand the "loaded" question and answer it ("would you like tea or coffee?") she has to accept the presupposition that accompanies the question ("before we go to my place":).
So for example, lets say you want to invite the girl over to your place. You definitely cannot say "soooo...do you want to go to my place?"....you're setting youself up for a negative response. Women love that! There is too much power put into her hands at this point! Now the has the power to say "YES" or "NO"! This is not what you want....so here is how you say it...."Sooo....would you like (something to drink) before (I take you home)?"
"Would you like (another coke / whiskey) before (I take you home / we go to your place / we go to my place)?"
If she answers "YES" to your question, which she will, subconciously, you're programming her subconcious to feel comfortable going to your house. Her subconcious is now getting used to the idea that, yes, I agreed to go to his place, and will find the rationale to justify going.
Presuppositions can also be used in ordinary sentences to help her decide… or rather, decide for her:) If you'd like to take a shower together with her after spending the night together, instead of asking "Wanna take a shower? How about something like "I'll ready the shower for us:)".
Here are a few more examples of how a simple sentence can help a girl sway towards the right decision:) or simply not leave her with much choice:) Use these to construct your own "decision-swayers".
Binds of comparable alternatives
"So do you want to meet together again tomorrow over lunch, or over coffee? (keep talking!) e.g. Either way, the most important thing is that we can carry on this conversation. Sound good to you?"
"So do you want to dance now, or wait until the next slow? (keep talking!) You're looking as if YOU CAN'T WAIT to dance now. Let's go!?" Cause & Effect
"You won't get the most out of the music just thinking about it, since the best way to experience it is to dance together."
"As you sit there, you can feel the pulsating music deep within you and you know you have to dance before the night is out. Come:)"
Resistance-breaking patterns
Two mini-patterns using time distortion, binds of comparable alternatives and humour to break a girl's resistance to getting together with you:
"Won't it be great AFTER we've gone out and laughed and felt really comfortable together? Then you can just look back at it all, smile that smile of satisfaction, and think to yourself: that was one of the best times, I've ever had!"
" I don't know if, when we go out, whether it will be a wonderfully fun adventure or just an incredibly enjoyable good time, but it sure will feel great to laugh and have fun that much, won't it?"
An example of using a combination of the above techniques and thought binding:
You: You know, I can tell you are a woman with great taste!
Her: How do you know?
You: Because you laugh at what I say. And the more you laugh, the more you'll recognise just how attractive you find that you want to laugh some more, and the more you'll look forward to being with someone just like that / the more you'll LOOK FORWARD to having the best time when we go out together.
Note: The presup above is used rarely in the NLP community however, it is very powerful since all the presuppositions are stacked together. This increases their weight and effectiveness. In this case 3 such presuppositions.
Her: (laughter)
You: See...just like that:)
You: Seriously...haven't you ever met someone, and you just knew you were going to like this person (point to yourself), cause you could just STOP, and IMAGINE BEING TOGETHER, feeling totally comfortable, and absolutely connected, for all the right reasons?
Her: Yeah
You: Well, see? So, as you think about it like that..." ...then just keep chatting, transition to IC pattern, whatever.
After Eliciting Her Values: After finding out what the girl likes to do, talk with the assumption that you're going to do it together: "Well, when we're doing [this and this] together, it would be nice if [something and something]"
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Power Rules
Thursday, November 10, 2005, 04:03 PM [The Arts of Seduction]
Live by the rules or suffer the blues!
Law 1 Never reveal your intentions (Keep people off balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defence.
Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realise your intentions, it will be too late:)
Law 2 Always say less than is necessary.
Law 3 Court attention at all costs
Law 4 Make other people come to you - use bait if necessary.
Law 5 Win through your actions, never through argument. (Any momentary triumph you win though argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change in opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you though your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.)
Law 6 Infection: Avoid the unhappy and unlucky (it works the other way also. This is an alternative take on social-proof, or pivots or whatever you want to call them, as well as wingmen. Also advice on not getting involved with the wrong girl.)
Law 7 Learn to keep people dependent on you.
Law 8 Use selective generosity to disarm your victim (One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Openhearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armour, you can deceive and manipulate at will:)
Law 9 When asking for help, appeal to people's self interest, never to their mercy or gratitude. Eg....before asking her on a date, make a case about people who don'`t go out anywhere to have any fun, and how boring and unappealing that is, ofcourse all the time making sure she agrees with you :)
Law 10 Pose as a friend, work as a spy.
Law 11 Use absence to increase respect and honour. (Again through mystery and not stuffing it up by staying too long and doing or saying something wrong.) Never supplicate!!
Law 12 Keep others in suspended terror: Cultivate an air of unpredictability.
Law 13 Do not build fortresses to protect yourself - Isolation is dangerous. (Get out there amongst them).
Law 14 Know who you are dealing with - do not offend the wrong person.
Law 15 Do not commit yourself to anyone.
Law 16 Play a sucker to catch a sucker - appear dumber than your mark. (Let her think that she is in control and smart, less naive, don't let on you are a player).
Law 17 Re-create yourself (Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Incorporate dynamic devices into your public gestures and actions - your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life).
Law 18 Keep your hands clean. (You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat' s-paws to disguise your involvement).
Law 19: Play on peoples need to believe to create a cult like following.
Law 20 Enter action with Boldness. (If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you make through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honours the timid).
Law 21 Plan all the way to the end.
Law 22 Make your accomplishments seem effortless. (Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that goes into them, also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work - it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you ...
Law 23 Control the options: Get others to play with the cards you deal. (The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favour whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of the dilemma: they are gored wherever they turn.
Law 24 Play to people's fantasies.
Law 25 Be royal in your own fashion: Act like a king to be treated like one.
Law 26 Master the art of timing. (Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.)
Law 27 Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.
Law 28 Create compelling spectacles. (Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power - everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then, full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols to heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.)
Law 29 Despise the free Lunch.
Law 30 Work on the hearts and minds of others.
Law 31 Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect. (The mirror reflects reality, but is the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of the mirror effect.)
Law 32 Assume formlessness. (By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attact. Instead of taking a form for the girl to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water: never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.)
Law 1 Never reveal your intentions (Keep people off balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defence.
Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realise your intentions, it will be too late:)
Law 2 Always say less than is necessary.
Law 3 Court attention at all costs
Law 4 Make other people come to you - use bait if necessary.
Law 5 Win through your actions, never through argument. (Any momentary triumph you win though argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change in opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you though your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.)
Law 6 Infection: Avoid the unhappy and unlucky (it works the other way also. This is an alternative take on social-proof, or pivots or whatever you want to call them, as well as wingmen. Also advice on not getting involved with the wrong girl.)
Law 7 Learn to keep people dependent on you.
Law 8 Use selective generosity to disarm your victim (One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Openhearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armour, you can deceive and manipulate at will:)
Law 9 When asking for help, appeal to people's self interest, never to their mercy or gratitude. Eg....before asking her on a date, make a case about people who don'`t go out anywhere to have any fun, and how boring and unappealing that is, ofcourse all the time making sure she agrees with you :)
Law 10 Pose as a friend, work as a spy.
Law 11 Use absence to increase respect and honour. (Again through mystery and not stuffing it up by staying too long and doing or saying something wrong.) Never supplicate!!
Law 12 Keep others in suspended terror: Cultivate an air of unpredictability.
Law 13 Do not build fortresses to protect yourself - Isolation is dangerous. (Get out there amongst them).
Law 14 Know who you are dealing with - do not offend the wrong person.
Law 15 Do not commit yourself to anyone.
Law 16 Play a sucker to catch a sucker - appear dumber than your mark. (Let her think that she is in control and smart, less naive, don't let on you are a player).
Law 17 Re-create yourself (Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Incorporate dynamic devices into your public gestures and actions - your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life).
Law 18 Keep your hands clean. (You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat' s-paws to disguise your involvement).
Law 19: Play on peoples need to believe to create a cult like following.
Law 20 Enter action with Boldness. (If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you make through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honours the timid).
Law 21 Plan all the way to the end.
Law 22 Make your accomplishments seem effortless. (Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that goes into them, also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work - it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you ...
Law 23 Control the options: Get others to play with the cards you deal. (The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favour whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of the dilemma: they are gored wherever they turn.
Law 24 Play to people's fantasies.
Law 25 Be royal in your own fashion: Act like a king to be treated like one.
Law 26 Master the art of timing. (Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.)
Law 27 Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.
Law 28 Create compelling spectacles. (Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power - everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then, full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols to heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.)
Law 29 Despise the free Lunch.
Law 30 Work on the hearts and minds of others.
Law 31 Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect. (The mirror reflects reality, but is the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of the mirror effect.)
Law 32 Assume formlessness. (By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attact. Instead of taking a form for the girl to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water: never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.)
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