by Tracey Cox

Superflirt, Tracey Cox reveals 5 simple tricks that you can use to make just about anyone fall in love with you. You won't believe how easy it is to win over the object of your affection. Find out how you can send all the right signals:

Some people will read this and think what I'm suggesting is wrong. I admit it's about manipulating and meddling with people's emotions. Most particularly, people you wish to God would meddle with you. In an ideal world, I'd agree. It would be preferable if everyone you wanted just fell in your lap, without having to play games. Unfortunately, real life doesn't always work that way.

Sometimes you can spend six months living, breathing, dripping, drooling, loving and lusting after someone with zero result. And it's when that happens that the techniques that follow suddenly seem like a gift from heaven. Besides, it's not like I'm proposing black magic or suggesting any of these techniques will force someone to fall in love with you against their will. (If they did, I'd currently be shacked up with Brad Pitt.) What they will do though is nudge the odds a lot higher in your favor. Is that really so bad? I don't think so. Go on, keep reading. You know you want to...

Hang Around Lots...but Then Be Unavailable

The more you interact with someone, the more they'll like you, says David Lieberman, a U.S. expert in human behavior. He's right actually. Several studies show repeated exposure to practically any stimulus makes us like it more (the only time it doesn't hold true is if our initial reaction to it is negative). So forget about being aloof, evasive, and unavailable in the beginning. Instead, find lots of excuses to spend time with him.

Now, pay attention, because this is the tricky part. Just when you're convinced you've won them over and they like you, start being a little less available. And then even less, until they hardly see you at all. You've now effectively instigated the "law of scarcity." We all know this one: people want what they can't have and by constantly being available, you diminish your value. If every time you walked outside your front door there was a huge pile of diamonds to step over, you'd hardly see them as precious would you? The law of scarcity only makes them want you. Be around and then not around and they'll want and like you. I'm stating the obvious here, but liking someone is important. We talk endlessly about chemistry, passion, sexual attraction, and even more about love, yet "like" rarely gets mention. Opposites don't attract long-term; we search for similarities in a partner. Most of us can't see the point in hanging around friends we don't like, so why do it with a lover? Liking someone is more important long-term than actually loving them. It's not just similarities in our personalities that count. If you go out with someone who looks like you, they're four times more likely to fall in love with you! "That's so true!" said a girlfriend, when I told her this trivia tidbit. "Look at my sister and her husband!" Umm -- why? Lisa's sister has bleached blonde hair, freckles, and ivory skin. Her husband is Indian. "I'm not quite with you," I said carefully. "I know it's not obvious," she said, "But it's the proportion of their faces. His mother came up to me at their wedding and said, 'They will be happy because they are the same. Look at them.' And it's true. They have the same features, in the same places, in the same proportions.
Don't Do Nice Things for Them. Let Them Do Nice Things for You

If you do something nice for someone, it makes you feel good on two levels. You feel pleased with yourself and extra-warm toward the person you've just spoiled. To justify the effort or expense, we often over-idealize how wonderful he is to deserve it! End result: we like the person more. When someone does something nice for us, we're pleased. But there are a whole lot of other emotions that come into play -- and they're not all good. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. There's pressure to live up to being the wonderful person who inspired such a gift/act, not to mention pressure to return the favor. It's all even trickier if the "nice thing" comes from someone you very much like but aren't sure about yet. Got the point? When we're infatuated with someone, we're desperate to do nice things for him. You're much better off letting him spoil you.

Give Them the Eye

Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin set out to see if he could measure love scientifically and achieved it by recording the amount of time lovers spent staring at each other. He discovered that couples who are deeply in love look at each other 75 percent of the time when talking and are slower to look away when someone else dares to intrude. In normal conversation, people look at each other between 30-60 percent of the time. The significance of what's now known as Rubin's Scale is obvious: It's possible to tell how "in love" people are by measuring the amount of time they spend gazing adoringly. Some psychologists still use it during counseling to work out how much affection couples feel for each other. It also happens to be remarkably handy information if you want to make someone fall in love with you. Here's how it works: If you look at someone you like 75 percent of the time when they're talking to you, you trick their brain. The brain knows the last time that someone looked at them that long and often, it meant they were in love. So it thinks OK, I'm obviously in love with this person as well, and starts to release phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA is a chemical cousin to amphetamines and is secreted by the nervous system when we first fall in love. PEA is what makes our palms sweat, our tummies flip over, and our hearts race. The more PEA the person you want has pumping through the bloodstream, the more likely he is to fall in love with you. While you can't honestly force someone to adore you if he's not remotely interested (they won't let you look into their eyes for that long, for a start!), it is entirely possible to kick-start the production of PEA using this technique. Try it. I think you'll be pretty impressed with the results. Give someone the sensation of feeling in love whenever he's with you, and it's not such a huge leap of logic for him to finally decide that he is! Don't Look Away

There was another crucial finding from Rubin's research: The couples took longer to look away when someone else joined the conversation. Again, if you do this to someone who's not in love with you (yet), you trick his brain into thinking he is, and even more PEA floods into his bloodstream. Relationships expert Leil Lownes calls this technique making "toffee eyes." Simply lock eyes with the person you like and keep them there, even when he has finished talking or someone else joins the conversation. When you eventually do drag your eyes away (three or four seconds later), do it slowly and reluctantly -- as though they're attached by warm toffee. This technique may not sound terribly inspired but, believe me, if done properly it can literally take your breath away. If you're too shy to gaze openly, skip the toffee and think bouncing ball. Look away and at the other person who's joined the conversation, but every time they finish a sentence, let your eyes bounce back to the person you're interested in. This is a checking gesture -- you're checking his reaction to what the speaker is saying -- and lets him know you're more interested in him than the other person.

Practice Pupillometrics

We all know "bedroom eyes" when we see them: it's the look of lust. There's just one thing you need for bedroom eyes: big pupils. According to pupillometrics, the science of pupil study, this is the crucial element we respond to. You can't consciously control your pupils (one reason why people say the eyes don't lie). But you can create the right conditions to inspire large pupils and get the effect. First, reduce light. Our pupils expand when they're robbed of it, one reason why candlelight and dimmer switches are de rigueur in romantic restaurants. It's not just the softening of light that makes our faces appear more attractive, larger pupils also help. Scientists showed two sets of pictures of a woman's face to men. The photograph was identical, except for one thing; the pupils in one set had been doctored to make them larger. When shown the doctored photograph, men judged the woman as twice more attractive than when shown the real photo. It was repeated with a man's face and tested on women and gave the same result. Our pupils also enlarge when we look at something we like. Again, this can be proved using pictures. This time, researchers snuck a picture of a naked woman into a pile of otherwise bland, commonplace photographs then watched men's pupil size when they flicked through them. Without exception, the men's pupils expanded on cue. This means if you're attracted to someone a lot, your pupils are probably already big, black holes. All good. To ensure this is happening or to up the effect of your bedroom eyes, focus on the part of the person you like the most. (On second thought, better make it the next best thing.)

Attraction Myth # 1

"Being An Attractive Man Is Always About Appealing To What Women Say They Want..."

Most men think "Attraction" is what a woman prefers. I can remember only a few years back, seeing an attractive woman and thinking to myself: "She'd probably never feel attraction toward me because I'm not tall enough, funny enough, muscular enough…and so on." Was I crazy for thinking this? Not at all. Women prefer men who are tall, dark, and handsome…with really big penises. If this is what Attraction was, most of the male population would be out of luck. This, thank God, is NOT what Attraction is.

Fact: Many Beautiful Women Are Attracted To Men Whom Are Ugly, Short, Bald, Fat, Poor…And So On, Because ATTRACTION Has Nothing To Do With What Women Prefer.

Generating Attraction in women is about creating the emotion inside them of wanting, reaching, and chasing for more of you. Many dating experts will tell you that if you want to attract women you better appeal to what they prefer by, for example, getting in shape, developing your sense of humor, honing your style…and so on. Women love when men possess these qualities. And if a woman is already attracted to a man and he has some of these qualities, chances are, she'll be even more attracted to him. But having these qualities in and of themselves will not make women attracted to you –because this is not what attraction is. This is what most dating experts don't realize. The only way to generate massive attraction in women is to learn to spark the emotion of them wanting, reaching and chasing for more of you.

I'm going to teach you step-by-step how to generate this emotion with any and every woman you desire, making her want and reach and chase for more of you…and you won't learn this method anywhere else because I'm the only one teaching it.

Keep reading to learn exactly how to do this...

Attraction Myth # 2

"Impressing, Getting Validation From, Or Winning A Woman Over Will Make Her Attracted To You..."

Most dating experts will give you tons of advice, tactics, and pickup lines for impressing, getting validation from, and winning women over. Many of these techniques seem tempting because we have a natural inclination toward wanting validation from others. Following this advice, however, is one of the biggest mistakes you could make. I should know. I've tried every trick in the book to get women's validation…and it generated absolutely zero attraction.

Fact: Women are attracted to men who establish themselves as the PRIZE in the interaction. When you try to impress, get validation from, or win a woman over, you are conveying to her that you are not the PRIZE, preventing you from generating Any attraction with her.

Some dating experts will tell you to believe and be the PRIZE with women. They fail, however, to break down the "how-to" of being the Prize with women.

If you're a single guy still looking for your dream POA (piece of ass), I'm sure you've absorbed lots of advice on how best to meet and date women by now. A lot of it is "common sensical" as you well know. Therefore, assuming you know enough not to show up on a first date looking like you just combed your hair with an M-80 or wearing cowboy boots and shorts, maybe a few of the following ideas can give you just enough of an edge to make the difference between Date #2 with an exciting little fox -- and a date with ol' Rosie Palm instead. Check these out :
1 ) Don't Try To Act Like A Fake On The First Date
A woman often makes a far more profound emotional investment into a relationship than a man does. So for her, TRUST is an immensely important issue. Dating is not just a convenient way to get her rocks off, it's a case study in the male psyche. Can she trust you to ever be a good future father? Don't laugh, unless she's middle-aged and well beyond the kids & husband phase of her life, this "mating calculus" is ALWAYS running somewhere in the back of her mind.
Acting like a phoney with an obviously fake 'come-on' personality only demonstrates how easily you are willing to embrace deception in order to get something you want. To any woman other than the sad exception of the chick who's looking for another loser for her next AA reclamation project (maybe 10% to 15% of the female population), you are TOTAL POISON. A potential cheater and heartbreaker just waiting for his next victim to arrive. She may dump you right away, OR depending on the depth of her general bitterness towards men, keep you around to engage in a little recreational tease and torturing if she's got a vendetta to settle with a guy like you. Beware!
2 ) Create New Memories Instead Of Swapping Them
Here's the very best dating advice I can ever give anyone: in order to make any date memorable and fun, spend 90% of your activities in the present moment.
It's easy to get caught up in the "talking trap" on a date -- where the two of you sit around and get lost in deeper and deeper conversation. These 'chatting dates' can slip out of control and become subtle passion-killers though, especially if you're not careful to keep the big picture in focus. Before you know it, you're spilling your guts about Father Hamhands from your altar boy days or waxing poetic about your hemorrhoids and how they love to swell up in the springtime. Yeesh. As Joey from the TV show Friends once scolded his buddy Chandler, "... ok, that's TOO MUCH information!..."
For a seduction to go off like a thing of beauty, you must reveal yourself SLOWLY -- bit-by-bit -- as you gradually come to know her. Think of dating as an emotional veil dance... a striptease -- the point of which is to make her anticipate when the next Veil of Male Mystery will come off! This is the kind of thing she's been DREAMING about all her life. Why? Because it makes everything that's to follow (including the sex) all that much more delicious for her.
So put ACTION ahead of endless yakking. Stay active on a date (it doesn't have to be an extreme sport-fest or anything, just visiting a flea market will do...) so that you are BUILDING a memory with her instead of SHARING one. Focus on having experiences with her that the two of you can reminisce about some day in the future -- instead of spending time caught up in a lot of drawn-out amateur psychotherapy sessions in a bar somewhere. Conversation is very important in any new relationship, and is the pathway to her eventual sexual surrender, but you must provide her with a REASON to want to know so much about you *FIRST* before opening your soul. Never forget the importance of your veil dance.
3 ) Don't Be A Bore
A boring person is anti-charismatic -- which is to say that, instead of making people feel GOOD about themselves by acting interested in them, the boring person makes us want to run away screaming from the agony of having to listen to another second of his self-absorbed droning!
The point of conversation should always be focused on drawing HER interests out instead of dwelling on your own (but don't come across like a ruthless Nazi interrogator -- go easy on the unbroken string of questions). Share a little -- but keep YOUR interests lost in the background. Her response to a few casual queries about her life or current dreams holds clues to your *LifeLine*. Cling to it tightly and work on expanding its scope. Submerge your own ego for the first few dates. Don't worry, when you finally hook her she'll begin questioning you intently... maybe TOO intently! But that probably won't happen until after you've had sex. (Then get ready for the onslaught!)
4 ) Forget About Trying To Act "Like Yourself"
The standard dating advice of "being yourself" or "acting like yourself" (whatever the hell that means) is pure "Oprah-istic" B.S.
Learn to strike a balance between coming on like a phoney- baloney (which we talked about earlier), and seeming too safe and friendly. Seduction is a delicate bubble that can be burst with increasingly less effort as it ripens. A first date is NOT the place to remain in the role of your everyday average old sort of guy... that's spells B-O-R-I-N-G. A spark must be present to ignite the *fires of desire* in the old primal portion of her brain.
So that means you have to be EXCITED to be out with her! When you think about it, it should be easy to get juiced up... dating someone for the very first time is not something that happens every day in anyone's life. Face it, ordinary life sucks. Romance is a fantasy voyage, an escape from the 9 to 5 daily drudgery of work, etc. Treat this rare event for what it is... something unique, unrepeatable and potentially unforgettable. Even if she seems too cool to care, trust me... her romance motor is humming along in high gear.
5 ) Five Minutes Of Nerves Is Normal, Then Calm Down
After some initial awkwardness due to understandable jitters, you should be able to calm down and hit your stride. If you have a real problem controlling automatic body reactions to nervousness (bad sweating, stuttering, facial twitching, etc.) my best advice is to get a book on yoga and practice it WITH AN OPEN MIND. You don't have to go nuts and join the Green Party or anything, but DO try some of the deep breathing and relaxation techniques. They really work and can give you the self-control edge you might need. This will project through in your attitude as a cool confidence that is the unmistakable sign of a High Status Male!
Learn to always keep your movements around the women you're trying to seduce graceful and deliberate like a snake charmer. Modulate your voice in a throaty style (lowered volume) and keep the tone of your words sounding a little bit "conspiratorial" (without going overboard and making a fool of yourself). A squeaky voice spells fear and sounds adolescent, so strive to keep it in check. Be self-aware.
6 ) Obsession Is The Hallmark Of The Weak Male
Dominant males will show an interest in any attractive woman they encounter because they are highly sexually driven. But -- because they have many options with females open to them -- they do NOT act obsessive about any *particular* woman. So don't be obsessed with her... just be interested. Proclaiming ridiculously inappropriate nonsense like "...I love you" or "You're the girl I've been searching for my whole life..." on a first or second date is the frightening talk of the potential stalker. You become RADIOACTIVE to women once word of your engaging in this kind of bizarre behavior spreads. And it will spread... women gossip like demons. So chill the subservient groveling and act like you've been down the dating & mating road a few times already.
7 ) No Matter What Happens, Assume She Likes You... and Believe It
I'm not kidding here... this is an essential Jedi mind trick that you MUST somehow learn to play on yourself. Simply ASSUME that any woman you're working will *always* like you -- and do whatever the hell it takes to sell this idea to your unconscious mind! Women can become mesmerized by men who seem to be captivated by them. But this kind of 'vibe' can only shine through your body language if it's GENUINE -- and for that to happen, you have to believe that she will respond favorably to you... *no matter what*.
Remember... ATTITUDE + UNCONSCIOUS BELIEFS = THE TRUTH. Your attitude is a naked expression of your unconscious beliefs about yourself. Therefore, it is interpreted BY OTHERS as revealing the absolute truth about you... whether YOU like it or not. Control the self-image that you project to the world by pushing the crappy beliefs about yourself out of your brain, and replace them with empowering ones that will advance your own personal 'cause' for a change. Strive to deliberately manipulate this critical part of your consciousness, and watch your world change before your eyes like magic.
Before long, you'll soon have your pick of all the best looking women in YOUR world!

Everyone it seem, just love that penetrating :) tantilizing touch...that warm, relaxing and soothing feeling that massage brings to the senses.
Women just love massages. So suggesting that you give her a massage might make her bright eye light up with fond memories and anticipation of how good it can feel all over. You can bring up the subject by simply asking if she ever had a massage, or you can ask her questions like, "How do you pamper yourself" or "Seem like you work really hard, i hope you take time out to pamper yourself". Then take her there mentally, meaning you start to describe "the aroma of the room, the soothing feelings you feel, the relaxing music in the background that just massages your mind, the beautiful landscape that seem so peaceful...as you begin to feel more and more relaxed, at ease, and peaceful....making you feel so comfortable as if youre somewhere quiet and relaxing and peaceful....and it just feel unbelievably good the way the oil just caress your body..." etc etc.
Pre-Massage Prep: Once you both decide on the massage,
you need to take the time to prepare the venue. Never do it at her place. Always suggest her to come over to your place. Reason being, you have all the time in the world to do your Pre-Massage Prep.
Taking the time to create a sensual and appealing environment for your erotic massage shows that you care about her (even if you don't) and value her pleasure and interests. Start by turning off the phones, putting on some specially put together music. For example Bobby Valentine, R. Kelly, Joe, Maxwell, DA'ngello, etc...depending on who your guest is.
Illuminate the room with either candles or soft indirect lamps, burn some really sensual incense, select something that is lightly scented and neutral and turn up the heat to where one would be comfortable lying down naked. Now, be professional, make sure your finger nails are clipped, go out and get yourself a massage oil warmer, keep your lubricants and oils within easy reach, and cover the massage table with a blanket and place a clean sheet over this blanket. Guys, I do this all the time. No need for the table if you dont have one....spread that sheet (that you use for this purpose) on the bed, she will have no problem lying on it......and ofcourse you want her on the bed....:) Make sure to give her a towel to cover her backside, remember, you want to be professional...at least until you get her dripping wet :) ....which you will. Read on.
By the way, you can use pieces of (even fake) fur or feather for additional sensual tantalization, and an eye pillow or blindfold can be helpful in blocking out any unwanted light but this is not necessary.
Sensual Strokes:
Now for the action. For those who dont know any massage techniques you can go to Amazon.com and pick one up. If you look to the right, I have included some short video clips for your viewing pleasure.
Lay her nude (or semi-nude) body down on the bed and make sure she's in a comfortable position, this is important. Smooth the oil over her entire back in wide, smooth strokes with the flat part of your palm. Don't knead her body as yet. Just let the oil penetrate her skin as she gets used to your hands all over her :).
Rub her slowly and deeply: remember to be continuously sensual, but professional (for now) :-) Take your time and rub her in a way that makes her feel like you're willing to devote all the time in the world to her. And depending on the music, its more romantic and penetrating, mentally to massage her to the pace of the music. Keep your hands on her body at all times, ocasionally getting feedback as to how she likes it.
Work your way down from the back of her neck to her shoulders. Don't squeeze her neck because you may end up causing an unwanted choking sensation. If you're working the shoulders, be careful not to squeeze her collarbones with the muscle because it's an agonizing sensation.
Stretch out her arms and massage her biceps lightly with your fingertips. Work the back on either side of the spinal cord, but never push deeply on the spine itself. Use upward strokes laterally along the spine until you reach her tailbone. Feel free to tease the area around the base of the spine because it contains many sensitive nerve endings.
Give her a little TLC: After you've done your duty on her back and arms, work your way down to her legs, especially her inner thighs because they are incredibly sensitive. Her legs should be given special care. You don't have to be as cautious as with her back, but still remain gentle.
Rub her legs one section at a time, starting at her thighs, moving to her calves and finally ending at her feet. Now if you want to relax her some more, spend some time on her feet before saying, done.
After massaging her back, legs, and feet, have her turn over. Massage the chest, arms, and hands. Then glide down to the legs. It can feel good to
brush the genitals when going down to the legs. After finishing the fronts of the legs and feet, glide back up and slowly brush over the genitals, teasing them. This "unintentional" teasing can be drawn out by brushing the inner thighs near the genitals, very lightly touching the pubic region, etc. At this point her erotic energy is building and you will notice that shes all wet when you brush against the cochie. At this point you can gently kiss her stomach slowly working your way up to her breasts. Make sure you keep it in "massage mode" for a few, so as to get her more and more sexually aroused. Never get hasty with your moves but massage her body with your tongue and your kisses.....see cunnilingus.
At this point its over...she's gonna want you inside of her so bad, she wont even remember she was getting a massage. And you know what...she will never forget you :) A mater of fact she will be thinking about the experience so much that she will beg to come over next time.

Wingman: First of all lets clarify the term "wingman". A wingman is basically a close friend, aquaintance or relative with whom you would go out together with when prospecting women. He would have the same goal of meeting and seducing beautiful women and would have to know at least some of the strategies and techniques used. This is important, because you cannot be successful with your wingman unless he knows what he's doing. So the first thing you want to do is to show your wingman the ropes so to speak, and practice together.
Wingman Training: One of the best ways to train your wingman is to just go out there together and prospect women. Before you do that though, you want to give him the link to seducenow.com so he can study the articles on his own. He might want to start with our articles on confidence, openers, 3 second rule and eliciting values. Now i'm sure after reading the articles your wingman will be bucking to try out the new strategies. The next thing to do is to sit down and devise a signal or code, so that you both can use it during your conversation with the girl. There are two reasons why you want to have a common code. 1) To tell your wingman "lets go, shes a waste of time" and 2)To signal your wing man its ok for HIM to get her number.
Confidence Builder: You might be a very good talker and can talk any woman out of her pants, but you probably dont have the confidence when you do an initial approach. This is where your wingman can come in handy. It makes a big difference when you know you have a "backup", someone who can back you up when you say something wrong, or you find yourself lost for words. And think about scenario's where a woman will act rude to the point of walking away from you, or even try to insult you. With your wingman, you can do a number of things in response. You can both laugh at her, (to bring your ego back up), say something smart, or outright insult HER! Dont be afaid to tell a woman off, if she tries to embarrass or belittle you. You're a MAN with an ego and you shouldnt let anyone step on you and crush you like a little boy. See my neghits article on this.
Two On One: The two on one method cannot be performed without your wingman, ofcourse. What it consists of is a constant bombardment of your prey to the point of confusion and admiration. So for example lets say you approach a woman with a serious look. First thing you want to do is to make her smile. This colapses their defences and lets you right in.
So you say to her: "hmmmmm, romeo must have done it this time, always screwing up right (with a smile). What did he do this time?". That is sure to get a smile from her.
Then your wingman would come in and say something to rub it in like: "I think he hurt her really bad".
Her: "How do you know?"
Wingman: "I can see it in your eyes".
You: (jump right in) The eyes never lie! Let me ask you this though...bla bla bla
And the both of you just keep going at it back and forth with her until you develop that intense rapport with her. At this point you both should know which one of you she's most attracted to. Now the way I do it with my wingman is we play it by situation. If I feel like he should have a particular girl then I would use the secret signal and he would know to go for the digits. And he would do the same.
Conflicting Complements: Confilcting complements can work wonders when youre working with your wingman as long as you do it after you have established some good rapport with her. For one, she dosent know what to believe which is ok since it confuses her. So how do you make a confilcting comment. You do it with the help of your wingman. So if you complement her style of dress, with words such as: "I like the way your hairstyle complements your features (guys note the vagueness of that statement)"... your wingman would come ( with a smile ofcourse) and say something like: No it dosent! I dont think it complements her style". Now she might resent your wingman a bit, but it dosen't matter, because she's now drawing a wide chasm between both of you and shes comparing your wingman to you who was comparably sweet. This inivitably makes you more attractive and increases your chances for your # close. See article on closing.
Wingman Pressure Close: Sometimes your wingman can be the essential element in zeroing in on the close. And if he's atune to how the conversation is progressing (or regressing lol) he might do whats called a "pressure close" so you can do the close, get the digits and be out. What your wingman would do is get himself distracted by talking to another chick, looking at sneakers in a store nearby, talking on the phone...whatever. He just want to be away from the conversation for at least 5 minutes. Then he would come back in a hurry,looking at his watch until he says, Listen John, rememner we have to be at (wherever) at 6..why dont you just get her number and call her later. He just pressured him to do the close....so it now seem like he have to go so ofcourse he would need the number in order to continue the conversation later. The other benefit to this is, if she was really enjoying the interaction and she found him irristable and interesting, she would begin to feel she would be missing out on such a great guy. So the wingman "pressure close" would pressure her too.
Confirmation: One way to solidify what you say to anyone is to use third party. We do it everyday without even thinking. How many times we would say something, and to proof our argument we would turn to our friend, neighbor, whoever, and say...right Jane? ...right Paul? It brings credence and validity to our argument. Same strategy can be used when talking to women. You say something....dosen't even have to be something important. You could be telling her of a really romantic spot, by the river, overlooking the park, and its really close...but she seem to not believe. All you do is use your third party. Use your wingman to validate your statement. Remember, third party is always better than 1st party. Use your wingman.